HELP
I’m a single mum, I did not day for many years as I wanted to focus on my children, the problem is I finally met someone I love so much we have been “dating” for 2.5 years now but he has not been involved with my friends/family nor have I been with his, I want us to start making that transition but he shows no interest and his excuse is he has been in relationships where children are involved and it’s heart breaking when something goes wrong, he wants to go very slow, I understand this but when is it to long to make this excuse? Do I wait or do I let go????
Do I wait or do I let go
Do I wait or do I let go
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This dude has you convinced about "taking it slow" but its really a more FWB arrangement.
Open your eyes darling.
That’s ludicrously slow. He’s not the guy for you. Time to move on. He’s allowing his past to control his behaviour (if that’s really what is going on).
I’m all for taking things slow, but this is way over the top. If you go at his speed you won’t be able to meet his people or vice versa until the kids are adults and then he will find some other excuse.
I think this is a situation where you need to follow your gut. You both have very valid points and we cannot make judgement as to whether he is genuinely scared to make that leap. Personally I feel 2.5 years is long enough but also think that if I felt he was genuine that I would wait. Maybe if he is unwilling to even start having conversations about how it will work going into the future, then that would be the clear indicator
Are you sure he isn't married or already in a relationship? If he won't let you meet his family or friends after 2 years that's sus.
Yep,or he suddenly will be, because its concrete that its not you and it wont be.
Well you can be half invested so he can leave easily or you can decide you want to spend your time on a real commitment/life or at least looking and available to find it. Over 2 years is definitely too long already, this is all he wants.
Its possible you're not the only one he's 'dating'.
I dated someone for 9 years like this. Never made an effort to see my family with me or friends. Guests had to be gone before he got home from work. Misery. Don't do it. I left after 9 years of nothing changing, no progression. Yes leaving the kids is hard but don't waste your time if he isn't going to bother. Life is too short.