Hi.
My partner cheated a while ago. Got caught because there entire attitude changed and so did the amount of sex. Nil.
Anyway fast forward the attitude has changed, sex is nil ( possible health issue ) even said no helping each each other as that hurts too. Got a little concerned so had a peek. They have been snapping some person and my partner explained what they think of while masturbating and that they would like to experience something different. Went back and forth and ended with both agreeing it would be good to catch up as they both work shift work. I do not know this other person either. But knows we are married. As when asked about me was told its ok. They are at work.
We have had sex 3 times in over a year. 2 times was a week apart. The other was about 4months ago.
I have always worked hard, loved and been loyal to a tee. Cooked, cleaned and taken care if the kids.
If i say anything i am the bad person for looking. If i dont it will kill me inside. I can not do this again.
And i am male.
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Do you need the drama that comes with a big confrontation?
Does your family, your kids?
Prior behaviour.
Known patterns.
No trust.
And of course, the messages that indicate your suspicions are likely true. Not 100% proof but do you need it to decide that this is not how you want to spend the next 20, 40, 60 years of your life?
It's not working for you, you don't owe anyone explanations. Walk away with your dignity intact, your head held high and put your trust into meeting someone that deserves the love and devotion you offer.
Why are you staying? What is really making you stay? It doesn’t sound like you’re being appreciated or given the love and respect you deserve.
You are worth more, pack your bags and leave. You don’t need to leave because of the affair. You can leave because you are just genuinely unhappy or don’t have the trust anymore
So shes cheating and youre scared to saya nything because shes going to make you feel like the shit one?
Simple. Just pack up and leave without saying something then. You will never ever miss this.
You need to end it x
He’s cheating get out! You deserve better.
The original poster is a male so she is cheating.
Why can it be 2 men? or any other combo in the rainbow of LGBTI ? Such assumptions
I would would pack your partners bags, and change the locks when they where at work. leave their shit on the front door step and tell then the side squeeze is now the only one interested.
Your gender doesn't change how you should be treated. this person is a jerk and taking advantage of you not being strong enough to tell them to F off.
Hold your head high, get a stash of cash sorted and be ready to do it on your own. You have got this and deserve to be treated with respect.
Don’t say anything, just end the relationship. You aren’t going to get answers you like anyway, so might as well move on.