Hi everyone!
I dont know what I’m seeking by writing this, I feel like I just need to let it out and maybe need some encouragement or wise words. My husband and I have been together for fifteen years. I am 30 years old and look after my appearance (put make up on daily, get my hair done, go to the gym). We have two kids together. We have had our ups and downs in our marriage.
Anyway, the main issue is that I found out that my husband went to a brothel. He did not admit it. He is a bit of an idiot as he paid for it with our bank card but made payment to an account with a strange name. So I went through his phone and it matched payment and the brothels name as well as the fee they charge. I confronted him and he said “yes I did go, but I didn’t do anything. It didn’t even go up. She tried to wank me off but I told her to stop because it was so awkward. The lady said ‘well you’ve already paid for it - so let me at least give you a BACK massage” so that’s what happened...
I know, I know! It’s a load shit. I’m just so disappointed and upset. I feel so betrayed that he did this. What makes things worse is that I used to wait for him every night in bed to be intimate with me. And every time he would tell me he is too tired, or I’d fall asleep waiting for him.
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I'm so glad you're smarter than his lies x
Even if it is true he went there with the intention of getting some, he paid for it and went to the room! A guy who was just tempted but not following through would not have gone that far, he had full intentions of doing the wrong thing.
This is nothing to do with you it's all about him. Dont think you're not good enough or that it's your fault. This is his problem so try and isolate it to him, it's his guilt to carry, not yours.
The best way to move on is to get rid of him, and truly understand that his behaviour says a lot about him and nothing about you.
This is his issue, and your job now is to go live your best life.
My hubby went to one in his early 20s when he was single because all his mates did. He ended up playing cards for the same reason lol. He could be telling the truth. The problem is that he's married and went in the first place. Not whether he did anything.