Blended families.... did having the “ours baby” unite the family or did it cause more strain on the family unit? Just wondering what other people’s experiences are.
Blended families.... did having the “ours baby” unite the family or did it cause more strain on the family unit? Just wondering what other people’s experiences are.
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If the family isn’t properly blended and United a baby won’t improve the situation.
We’ve actually had mums write in here a number of times who have left after having the new baby because things were not blending, and problems that existed before the new baby were escalating.
Babies add stress to situations not decrease it, sleep deprivation, differing parenting styles will add to the drama.
I don't have any experience in this first hand but I do know this for sure:
Babies do not fix a broken family dynamic, they don't suddenly create unity if there was a divisiveness before they came along and they don't solve marital problems.
You really need to ensure you have a good, solid foundation before adding to a blended family (or any family for that matter).
Blended family here with 2 "our" babies.
They don't fix anything. Because they are not a Band-aid. The relationship needs to be solid, both between partners and between step-parents and children.
Well I’m pregnant to my new partner and my 15 year old son suddenly decided he wanted to live with his father. There are probably a multitude of reasons, but I think the baby was the final straw for him. It saddens me, but I respect his decision.
In my case it did! Eventually! We had mine, his and then an ours. There was always a divide of ‘that’s my cousin not yours’ or ‘you’re not family because you have a different last name’ the arguments continued after baby arrived. Then it became ‘she has my last name’ and ‘my mum had her so she’s more my sister’ now it’s everyone is family so shut up