Is it ok/normal for my 12 year old son to lay in my bed with me to watch tv or listen to calming music to fall asleep?
this is not a regular thing, just every once in a while.
while I love my kids laying in my bed with me my husband thinks it's inapropriate that my 12 year old lay with me and says I baby him.
I would love to hear all opinions on this.
thanks
Is it normal for my son to lay with me?
Is it normal for my son to lay with me?
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So your husband essentially wants you to raise a "tough man" who doesn't have an empathetic side to him? Give your husband a big fucking slap and "baby" your son for as long as your son is comfortable doing so.
My 17 year old son occasionally comes and lays with me for a chat when I go to bed (hubby usually comes to bed later than me). Sometimes it is the only time we get to chat and I love it no matter how tired I am. My hubby doesn’t have an issue with it.
This attitude that your husband has most likely inherited is why so many men dont know the difference between intimacy and sex because they're taught from such a young age that any other form of connection, affection, physical closeness and human contact is inappropriate behavior for boys!
It really makes me mad and we need to end this cycle.
You're nurturing your son's needs, there's nothing inappropriate or babyish about that.
Always baby them (at times) as long as its not babying them allll the time, they will always need that and tell your husband that his attitude is sad. He plays a huge role in modeling masculinity and health and support to his kids so he should probably get his head around cuddling them even as adults.
Cherish it...
My almost 16yo son still comes into my bed to lay down for tv, cuddles, or chats. It's normal for us we don't see this as weird odd or strange so if it works for you and your child let it. its not acceptable for your partner to be making it unnatural.
My almost 14 year old son will occasionally sleep in my bed, still. Usually when he’s really stressed about something. (I’m actually surprised he didn’t end up in my bed last night after some not so good news from his specialist yesterday). Sometimes he just needs to know that mum is close by while he relaxes and goes to sleep. Most nights he will cuddle up beside me for a chat before bed. My almost 16 year old son will occasionally come and lay on my bed for a chat. It sounds as though your husband is of the opinion that boys shouldn’t show their softer side. We need to teach our boys and our girls that it is ok to show our emotions and softer side. We also need to teach them it’s ok to be strong and stand up for ourselves.
My 13 and 11 year old sons will still come and cuddle with me if a morning and I love every second of it. One day I won’t be cool enough to cuddle with/ they won’t want morning cuddles with mum so I’ll take them for as long as I can get them. Enjoy the time with your son while he still wants to.
Your husband sucks
Your husband sucks
My 12 year old son lays with me every night. He loves being cuddled. There is nothing in appropriate about it. I love that my son is like this. I am his comfort and safe place when he is feeling anxious. I am making the most of it now because in another year or 2 he will prob have grown out of it.
Your husband is prob jealous of that special bond you have. Don’t change it. Make the most of it while you can. I love that my 12 year is like this. He loves laying in bed with me talking and cuddling up to me.
If my husband said that- it’d make me feel pretty rubbish 😥
It’s normal. It’s not inappropriate in any way ❤️
Your husband is probably jealous. Love and show your affection to your son as long as he wants it, cause 1 day it will stop. My 14 yr old lays in my bed watching movies still.
honestly, I hope my kids continue this.
I don't care if people say it's babying, it's not. it's loving them.
Yikes!
What exactly does he see as inappropriate?
I would be asking him what makes him so uncomfortable about this.
It's not inappropriate at all. I would be having a conversation with your husband to let him know you won't stop loving and nurturing your children just because he thinks affection stops at a certain age.