Hi mums, when i came to Australia from a third world country I started studying English, a few computer courses, Admin course, and the last one I did was AIN, but as I was finishing this course I got pregnant and didn't have the opportunity to work as I became a full time mum. We dont have any family here in Australia. I didn't have any skill either before coming to Australia. Now, my little one will start preschool soon and will have a bit of time, so my question is where do i go from here in terms of getting a job or starting at something, as I don't have any experience in anything . I really need to do something for myself and not been depending on my husband for everything, i need my financial independence, buy whatever i want or save or send money to my dad back in my country, because he needshelp. I barely get any money from husband as he pays and buys and controls everything. I don't have acces to bank accounts untill recently but I know I'm not supposed to touch that money. Any idea or reccomendation is appreciate it. Thanks in Advance
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Are you eligible for Centrelink? Your husband should not be controlling the money like this, this is classed as abuse in Australia. As for getting a job with no experience, start basic. Try cleaning contractors, they often don't advertise so give them a ring or send an email asking if there's any work and your availability. Advertise on fb as a house cleaner or babysitting. Pick up any work you can. When you find something regular this will give you more independence and you will be able to look into doing other courses to get a better paying job, working while you are studying.
Start local. Shops still put signs up. Cleaning, working in a kitchen, ask at caravan parks, garden nurseries, cafes, youll do better getting in with a local owned small business than a large corporation as they usually have no patience for people who speak english as a second language.
Entry level factory work?
I started at a local factory at 22 with no experience, have been senior management now for over 10 years.
Also i agree with the first poster. You should have access to money. You should be getting centrelink, parenting partner payment and family tax benefit. Or if he is earning more then he is earning a lot ans you should have access to money not just for food but for yourself, even if its not a lot, even if theres not enough to send any back, you should have some for you to have the freedom to go out for a coffee with friends, or go to a yoga class. Is he hiding the centrelink money from you as well? Will he take your work pay?
Just because she isnt supposed to touch the bank accounts it doesnt mean its abuse. The money is probably their savings and they may both be tightening their belts. She has access to their accounts , she just can't spend it if its savings? Since hes paying their Bill's they share he is probably budgeting carefully. I know my husband and I do this exact same thing for this reason, neither one of us are abusing the other by not being allowed to touch our savings.
She said she barely gets any money from her husband because it's possible it's not there to give? Doesn't mean he's keeping it all and spending on himself.
Look up financial abuse! She has only just been given access to accounts, why? Because she is controlled by him.
She needs a job for money because shes dependent on her husband. They are a team, their money is equal. What she's written is happening in her house is clearly not ok. Having access doesnt mean much when she also clearly knows she is not allowed to touch it. Her husband deciding hes strictly budgeting is not a reasonable excuse for this.
Have a look at TAFE courses. Specifically ones geared towards women returning to the workforce.
Here in W.A we have a course called " New Opportunities for Women" this assists women to find work and builds skills to put on a resume as well as arranges work placements. I'm sure you would have something equivalent in your area.
If you completed your English studies, could you approach perhaps an organisation to help teach or interpret documents for others who are new to the country and can't speak/read english? Perhaps there is a government or not for profit organisation that help these new migrants?
Good luck!
Finally;
From what you've described, you can google Financial Abuse. You're husband should not be doing what he is doing.