I am a single mum of 2 kids aged 2 and 4. I feel so sad, lonely and lost.
I have a good job, I own a house and am amicable enough with my ex.
I have some friends but I would say they are more like acquaintances.
I don't have anyone to talk to. I have gone through my whole seperation alone, single parenting and any issues I face.
If I died tomorrow, there would be no point even having a funeral because no one would turn up.
It's all well and good to say go out, join a club, find a hobby and meet people but when am I supposed to do this? I work, I parent, I run a household.... I'm permanently exhausted. I've tried seeing a psychologist (several), joining APPs, gym, groups and I'm still alone and feeling like I have no purpose.
I can be a bit shy and awkward with small talk but I am so loyal and go above and beyond for people I hardly know and yet I have no one. No one I can call or even text if I feel like it.
What is wrong with me?
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Find your interests and find time for those interests. I also found I made more friends when my kid started school and I started doing p&c and after school swimming and soccer and tennis. I went back to almost part time work to fit everything in.
I’m confident I could say I have 5 really good friends from the school community who I see outside of these activities when I can, and a few from school.
Are you my soul mate?? I’m exactly the same as this!! I’m in QLD Brisbane Northside. Please be close to me 🤞🤞
Edited: oh crap!! That sounds really creepy!! I’m a single mumma 7 kiddies. No friends. Social weird (clearly) but the best person I can be and honest :)
Holy - single mumma to 7 kids!! Amazing! And yes, actually Northside Brisbane - Caboolture (the nice bit 😉)
No way!!! Me too!!! Seriously it seems like it’s meant to be 😂
I’m close to the hospital so kids at school in that general area too. I’m that weird awkward parent that is always by herself 😂
I know we are both commenting anonymously but it would be good to get in contact. I'm thinking maybe setting up a dummy email address to exchange details initially and we can be awkward together? 😂
Ha that’s a great idea, better than mine cause I was just going to suggest meeting at a coffee club and setting a day and time for next week and see how many others randomly show up 😂😂
FYI my youngest kiddies are 1.5 and 3 so even chipmunks 🐿 at Morayfield :)
That's a good idea too - especially chipmunks.
I've set up a random email if you want to touch base and we can arrange a catch up? I mean what have I got to lose?
Friendskidscoffee@outlook.com
Another random here! So, just wondering, did you end up meeting?
I'm in Brisbane too ladies and feel this way! I'm at New Farm.
Hold on. 2 more years and you'll have so much more freedom. 3 Or 4 more and you'll have enough free time to be bored. That's when friendships grow and things are easier. It's so bloody hard when theyre little and demand so much of you
Oh I feel the same! And similar position. I live in W. A. though. :(
I have learnt to just be extra friendly with people I think are sort of friends. I feel it's enough for me at the moment as I don't have much time anyway with 2 jobs and 2 kids and school and the handovers.
There is nothing wrong with you. You are an amazing mum juggling responsibilities like a champion. I choose not to have many people in my life as a single mum as I just find people exhausting. I just concentrate on my job and my kids and nothing much else as that’s all I have the energy for. I know in time I will want to and if that happens then the school P&C and kids sports are the way to go