I have been with my guy for almost 6 years. I have been married once before and he has been married twice before. He has one child and I have two. When we first got together we talked about marriage and both acknowledged that making a commitment to one another wasn’t tied up in a piece of paper etc. We are both loyal and committed and hard working and have a house together, joint accounts etc. But the past year or so I’ve been feeling like I’d really like to be married to him. I love this guy so much, the problem is I feel awkward bringing it up given our prior conversations. I think I’m afraid of being rejected even though I know he loves me, he can be quite pragmatic, whereas I’m probably a bit more sentimental/emotional. Does anyone have experience with something like this? I’ve never been proposed to, my first husband and I just “got married” and it was pretty unromantic!
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I think its ok to change your mind. I understand because I have done the same, I agree that it's not necessary, but I want it because it was done so badly I just want to have that experience, same as you want to be proposed to. Explain that to him. There's ways to fulfil you both without spending a fortune, as long as you each understand which parts are important to each other, it may end up being a proposal, and wedding party and no paperwork.
Its not just paperwork, its an emotional commitment, a merging as one on a soul level. Have another chat to him. Worst he can say is No again.