Tik Tok. So with a nearly 14 yr old daughter who has recently gotten Instagram and is old enough for Facebook, technically, I thought I should educate myself on the latest socials. I asked young adult son what teens were using these days and Tik Tok was one. I seen it, seen ads, peeked over someone's shoulder at a funny clip, but decided a couple of weeks ago to join and check it out, we also wanted to see if dd had a profile there. So my first and only main concern is that this seems like a Soft Port outlet, young girls, and I mean young, are dancing suggestively with very few clothes on. I just can't help but wonder what their parents are doing, I know for sure they wouldn't be ok with it.
I don't really have a question, it's just really concerning.
Social Media - Is Tik Tok ok?
Social Media - Is Tik Tok ok?
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TikTok is totally okay.
Depending on what you watch is dependant on what you get shown.
My TikTok is basically all comedy routines.
When signing up I chose comedy, craft and dance as my preferred choices. It is the dance that has bought these all up. It's not like I went searching for something obscure or obscene. :-)
Exactly. You dont know what's going to pop up and it never takes long for really adult language and topics come up and there's no way to filter it.
I find tiktok wild and don't know how people let their kids on it. Very adult content.
Also see friends kids putting out content in bedrooms, school uniforms, obviously not being monitored at all.
In saying that I let my kids create content. I scroll and find suitable ones then show them a bunch of those and they create their own.
Firstly I feel like I have to say that no social media platform is 100% harmless and safe. Some are easier to filter and monitor though and it's for that reason that Tic Tok and Snapchat are not allowed in our house at all, my husband and I don't use them either to kind of lead by example.
I allowed my 11 year old to have Tic Tok as a trial during lockdown.
She started off with dance videos that were cutesy Jojo Siwa style dances, that very quickly progressed to dance videos that included foul, offensive or very overly sexualised language (and by no means am I a prude, my language can be colourful but it was shocking even to me).
I actually had very little control over what kind of content she was getting, some of it was fine, some as I already mentioned, was definitely not.
The absolute closer for me was when my daughter messaged a pretty moderately well known Tic Tok personality (I won't name names) to say she liked their videos. The response she got in return "Fuck off and die".
She was also getting messages from random people she didn't follow asking her to follow them and there was few that were a bit more nefarious (asking her age, where she lived etc).
Social media is always risky. There is no such thing as safe!
That’s why we have to teach our kids about how to use it and put appropriate security steps in place.
Social media is like play dates. My kid had more supervision when he started having play dates and as he proved his ability to be safe/ responsible etc we gradually removed supervision.
OP here, hoping that those on Facebook come here to read this message as they are clearly not reading the post properly.
My child is not using Tik Tok, I joined so I could learn about it. I put Dance as one of my interests, along with cooking, make-up and comedy. Dance has been the trigger for these soft porn posts. I'm not so much concerned about what videos you are letting your kids post so much as what they are watching and posting when you are not watching.
I have already raised one teen/young adult, had to know password, had to be on my friends list etc. But when that child started teens fb and Twitter were really the only popular ones. Things have changed in 6 yrs.