I’m sure I’m not alone.
I’m so glad Christmas is over.
I once was part of a normal family, then my mum got cancer and died, my dad blamed me, my sister was so insecure she thought her boyfriend was going to leave her for me, my brother was spineless and wouldn’t stand up for me and my mums death notice was printed omitting me as her first born daughter.
I’d moved interstate earlier in the year and they didn’t even tell me she died.
I now have my own family, a gorgeous 7 and 8 year old I raise on my own, they see their dad every second weekend. We have an amicable relationship for the sake of the children.
Every Christmas is the same, Christmas morning the kids are with me then from mid morning they go off and spend a wonderful day with their dad and his huge extended family. They are lucky to have such a wonderful inclusive family on their dads side that Christmas is a magical family event every year for them.
And for me, by Christmas lunch time I wish I was dead.
I’m sad and alone.
I keep busy by cleaning and lawn mowing and taking down Christmas decorations and avoiding family friendly Christmas movies and social media with others happy Christmas greetings.
Every Christmas Day I wish I could die.
No one phones, no one cares.
I spend all my free time working and volunteering and helping out others, creating events and including others but when it comes to Christmas I’m all alone.
Ive had sympathetic invites, been the odd one out in other family events but it’s not the same.
I’ve lived in remote areas and attended orphan Christmas parties but still have an empty feeling inside.
It’s now been 2 weeks since Christmas and I’m so glad it’s over. People are asking less and less how my Christmas was... they don’t really want to know how my Christmas was so I never tell anyone the truth.
The truth is Christmas is my saddest and loneliest time of the year.
I’m sure I’m not alone.
I’m sure I’m not alone
I’m sure I’m not alone
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I hate Christmas too I always go to my parents for lunch but if it wasn’t for me going there they would be alone too I have my kids so we make the most of it then you see these big families and I get jealous Too my sisters a drug addict my brothers don’t bother to contact us so it’s just me my kids and my parents with my niece who lives with them
Why do the kids go to your ex’s every year for the majority of the day? Why don’t you alternate? One have Christmas Eve and one have Christmas Day. That way every second year you can have your girls the whole day and have a wonderful time!! Then on your off year - go to a nursing home or a friends house or a soup kitchen. If you know you’ll have a “family Christmas” the following year it won’t be too hard. Maybe you might meet someone who would like to spend Christmas with you or you with them. Don’t send your girls away for the whole Fay every year. You have just as much right to the day as your ex has despite not having the whole big shebang! As children we stayed home and had a quiet Christmas every second year and you know what - it was fabulous! We still made the whole lunch and dessert but we stayed home and relaxed. It was heaven. Then the other year we did the HUGE family thing and it was great too. Keep your girls for Christmas. You deserve it and so do they. Xxxxx
So many people like ypu
I'm the same. I never speak to my family (they are awful people and I'm better off without them). They don't invite me to anything and even if they did I wouldn't go. My daughter is a teenager and on Christmas day she collect her presents and leaves, I'm glad she has friends to spend Christmas with but I spend the day completely on my own. Like you I have also tried the sympathy invite thing and it makes things worse emotionally. Easter and my birthday are the same. I don't have any friends. I have a physical disability so I can't go anywhere or do anything. I have just gotten used to it over the years.
It’s been interesting to read the responses on Facebook, especially the pity party. Hun, you obviously have no idea what it’s like. It’s people like you that cause people not to post on pages such as this. Stop and think before you hit reply, there is a person on the other end that could take your “toughen up” approach different to me. I just feel sorry for you being so heartless.
I’ve done the volunteering, I’ve had my kids for Christmas but I can’t give them the family their dad can and I don’t think they should miss out on that. Their dads party is an all dat event and they love every minute and no matter how amicable we are, his family would never invite me, they are not that kind of family.
By mid January I’m over my feeling of loneliness, events are back on, I’m busy and working and volunteering and getting other people together again.
I do like the idea of setting up a group of similar people, I live in a small country town and know everyone and there’s not many like me but I could look at extending to a nearby town.
This year I had planned Christmas in Paris, nothing like a holiday to look forward to improve the season, obviously I had to cancel.
It’s nice to know I’m not alone.