I see people re partner after separation. So easily! I am nealry ten years single and even with dating lots of different types of men, nothing seems to stick, they end up with another person who they were dating round the same time or get back with their ex... none of them are single now 🙄. My closest friend has been in three long term relationships since I met her about seven years ago, she has no issues with a man wanting to hang around, yep they have ended, but she’s happy and easily attracts another. I’m starting to really resent her as it hurts so much knowing no one seems to want it with me.
I’m told I’m attractive, I’m healthy and fit, I own my own home, I’m independent... I’m starting to believe I’m just not loveable and that my personality sucks. It hurts a lot.
What am I doing wrong?
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"I’m told I’m attractive, I’m healthy and fit, I own my own home, I’m independent..."
Don't sacrifice any of this for any man. Keep your standards high. Being alone doesn't have to be lonely. Your friend's 3 relationships in 7 years doesn't sound long-term to me. Be careful of thinking the grass is greener...
I was like you, and 10 years in after 10 years on my own, I would take the 10 years alone in a heart-beat. I feel trapped in my relationship, I've lost my fitness and healthy shine from overwork, I now have mortgage debt I had cleared by 40 and I have a dependent husband that sucks every ounce of energy, time and money from me.
Tread your own path Lovely, don't ever think you are not complete without a partner. You rock!
It’s not easy. Dating apps seemed to have ruined dating because everyone just seems to want sex, but not a relationship.
Same here, although I’ve not met anyone that I’d be interested in having a relationship with either
Just because they seem happy, doesn't mean it's all it's cut out to be.
Just be happy alone and see where life takes you.
Have you tried online dating? In my early 20's I was one that was never single. I'd leave long term relationships, and within a month I was in another. After I left my last one I decided to work on myself. I was single for over a year and then decided to look into eharmony. I found a few duds, but met my husband. We spoke to each other for well over 6 months prior to meeting, and 8 years on we've been married for 3.
You do have to pay for eharmony, but the way I thought was if everyone is paying for it, you're not going to get (as many) duds haha.
If this isn't something you're into, just wait it out and see how you go.
Good luck! And don't be angry at a good friend because she has something you don't. Don't loose a friendship over something she doesn't know effects you.
Not everyone will find a partner in life, and that’s ok. It’s not because you are faulty or because you aren’t doing something right. Sometimes it’s just luck and sometimes it’s because you aren’t prepared to settle for someone who isn’t good for you.
3 men in 7 years isn't long term relationships. It's 3 honeymoon periods followed by bailing out when the real world comes back into sight.
Is that what you want?
You're probably spending to much time being resentful of your "friends" moreso over focusing on yourself and building yourself up.
I can't see past the attack on your supposed friend and it already makes me not enjoy you after reading for 3 minutes.
I've had 2 kids and a new partner for 2 years and not been with my ex husband since late 2016. My partner isn't the father of any of my children and I met him when I was pregnant with my 3rd child and we officially were together 2 weeks after my baby was born. My life was a complete and utter shit show, so you'll work it out. Be kind, especially to yourself and you'll find someone who doesn't want to be without you.