Hey sisters,
I had a marriage breakdown 18 months ago and my ex husband is a narcissist. I have a new partner who iss an old friend so my life is so much better but I feel like I'm in a constant funk.
I feel like I have a failed career as a lawyer and will be closing my law firm this year. But now what? It's almost like my narc husband controlled so much of my life, that I don't know what to do with myself now. I am struggling financially after having to pay my husband out as a result of our property settlement. But I have no energy to look for a job and no get-up-and-go.
Has anyone else experienced this? How did you get out of the funk? Please be kind - I am my harshest critic and am struggling to see the light.
Love and peace ✌
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Get up each day and push yourself to go a walk. Look at the positive you are away from him and that is all that matters. You are a winner here so focus on the positives and find a new job and new people to work with. It will come back and the best way to get to a narcisst is to let them see you enjoying life with out them and moving forward they hate that. So start with a big walk each morning it does wonders and even at night. Clear your head. Get out and have fun with your new partner before you let it destroy that too. Find what you loved doing before the narcissit and get that back. Black the narcist off. Only way to win and move forward no contact. No reaction. Go do what you love and be who you were prior to him.
Join The Australian Narcissistic Support and Recovery group on Facebook.
So many lovely people who have been there or are going through the same thing to give support and understanding.
A good place for ideas and a great place just to vent to people who get it.
Take it one step at a time. I felt the same after my marriage finished. He controlled a lot more than I thought and my self worth diminished. I set myself small goals, tried new things, discovered who I really am and what makes me happy.