I feel like my husband has no regard for my feelings. Over our relationship he has kept and made female friends where I feel he skirts the line of okayness. I found messages on his phone tonight calling one person pretty and saying he would always be there for her
Recently I actually contacted a girlfriend of his to let her know I found their texts inappropriate- they would discuss sex and flirt just be suggestive
I'm so frustrated and I think he genuinely doesn't seem to get it and i don't know how to make him see.
Am i being ridiculous?
I cook and clean and so everything for our two kids, work two jobs and study at uni full time and he is telling another woman he is there for her. It just makes me feel like he has absolutely no regard for me
Drowning in my marriage
Drowning in my marriage
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No he gets it. This is him. You cant tell a girl to stop, whats she does is nothing to you, he is the one who will keep doing it.
As someone who has been cheated on, this would be enough for me to see the signs and leave. Particularly because you have children together.
Since you don't feel that way as you want to persist, what is your boundary?
You are so busy maybe he feels you have no time for him. He is obviously pushing the boundaries of what is appropriate. Can you slow down on one of the things in your life and make sometime for him? I know it is you having to sacrifice and make the effort but I guess it depends on how much you want to try to salvage the situation.
If he wants more time with her, then perhaps he should step up and start helping out around the house and with the kids. She’ll have more time for him then.
You can’t police the women, he’ll just move on to the next one.
It’s time he steps up and engages in the family or it’s time for him to leave.
You feel that way because he has no regard for you. I'd go off my fucking nut if I found my partner flirting and discussing sex with another female. He'd then find himself free to explore that avenue because no way would I consider him engaged in our relationship if that was how he behaved.
As mentioned, he gets it loud and clear. He just doesn't care because he assumes you'll put up with it.
So what's next mumma?
You puttin' up with it or telling him to sort his fucking shit out or fuck off?
Or TBH just to fuck off if you have the same black and white view on fidelity that I do.