Hi there, I need to understand my rights in leaving my defacto relationship. We have been living together for more than 2 years and don't have kids together. My partner earns all the money and pays for everything. I cook and clean and look after the house. What are my rights as I don't want to move out and feel I am entitled to half. We were together when we brought the house and I helped pick out the interiors when we renovated. He has treated me really badly over the years including cheating and gaslighting. What should I do?
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You need legal advice but I’d leave and get on with my life. Sometimes it’s better to be out of a relationship then be out of a relationship and stuck in a court battle.
Also if there is a lot owed on the assets you only end up with a portion of the equity. So if the house is worth $500,000 but he owes $490,000 you’ll only get half of $10,000.
Don't even start a battle tit for tat with him, just go. If you are looking to get some money out of this then the toxicity goes both ways. Honey, just count your losses and be rid of him. You would have been housekeeping no matter where you lived. Just move on and out.
So u have been living a life of luxury off his wages and not working and now want his hard earned cash/ assets!? Ur entitled to nothing! Leave and get off ur lazy ass and work!!
So you contribute nothing and want half his assets? If you were raising kids or the house deposit was from your equity or something sure... but this sounds like you mooch off him and now you want to hurt him. Walk away and be independent. Especially if he's mean now. Threaten things he's worked hard for and that will increase. Also, if he hasn't had the house long, it's probably only worth debt. Selling actually costs money and the 1st 5 years of a loan are almost entirely interest and minimal principal.
A two plus year relationship, you contributed nothing financially and have no kids together.
You don’t deserve anything.
Move on, get a job and support yourself.
I’m a single mum, it’s doable, but don’t try to profit unfairly from others.
No wonder there are so many damaged men out there.
You would have to do housework wherever you lived.
If you don't and haven't worked and haven't contributed financially I don't see how you can afford to stay on in the house simply put. Move on and start supporting yourself. That's no ones else's job. I would have a different view if there were kids or if you had been together longer. He doesn't owe you anything. Given that it's only been 2 years I'd say not even a dint would have been made on paying off the house yet. You'd be entitled to 1/2 the debt is about what I'd say... also how the relationship ended has no effect on what you're entitled to. I have to ask if there is a reason you aren't working?
Sounds like you just want to punish him by taking half.
Everything you have is because of him.
If you had been raising children then yes you deserve half but in your situation I dont believe you deserve anything.
Just move on with your life.
Cut your losses and leave. Get out of there while you can.
Just leave and leave him with what ever he had. it’s his and you will be much happier and a better person to just walk away. Go get on with the life that you deserve
I'm sorry for the way you were treated but....of you have no kids together, why take half? He earned all the money and paid for everything and you want half?
The best form of revenge is happiness....
You picking out some fixtures in a new house doesn’t give you an entitlement to it. Since you have no children or dependants and the relationship was only a short one with him providing financial stability to yourself, your best bet would be to pick out a few furniture items, pack up and move on with your life.
Who contributed financially to the deposit for the house? Who's name is on the title? If you didn't contribute at all then leave the house alone!! You say you picked out the interiors, but did you pay for it? Why didn't/don't you work? So much missing information. But if you simply just didn't want to work and instead are mooching off him then leave with what you came with! If the relationship is abusive then why bother with the stress?
Honestly, no. You just sound like you're after money.
Pay a lawyer and they will probably tell you the same or keep invoicing you until a judge tells you you're not getting something for nothing.
Doesn't matter if he hurt your feelings, treated you like a toilet or cheated.
You only made dinner, cooked, cleaned and HE gave you a roof over your head, access to money and paid the bills. Come on now, be real.
Unless you're on the title, paid some of the deposit, are on the mortgage, financially contributed to renovations not just picked out tiles, you are not entitled to anything but the clothes on your back and if anything things like he may have "gifted" you, he is basically more entitled to half of your stuff.
You just sound like you're a money hungry grub.