Hey IMs
Just wondering how do you give your chance/ or ex partner chance to move on when kids are involved? I’ve called the split with my partner and have accepted and come to terms with it needed to be done I’m not jumping out dating or anything yet but am also ready to move on if/when it happens. My ex is still hurting and doesn’t see himself moving on or wanting to. I suppose most relationships you split and there’s no contact from there on and easier if toxic etc but ended on really good terms and he still calls DD each night and sees her when he can (works interstate) but then falls back into the habit of calling/texting me if we have a quick hi how’s everything going on the end of her phone call. I only see him as a friend nothing more but feel like I’m stringing him along by talking parenting stuff or a check in etc. how to make it work when one still has and wants the relationship and ones walked away and moving on?
Any advice I feel like a jerk everytime I talk to him and between birthdays/xmas/ DD schooling and parenting things complete no contact isn’t really an option?
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You aren’t a jerk. I’d just be mindful of the length of convos and the topics involved. Think and treat it more as a business relationship.
Your business is the kids. C lost a tooth today and M got a certificate at school.
Also get care arrangements organised well ahead of time. Stop the daily convos between you and him. Once a week is more than enough.
Set up a 3rd party to mediate for you then .
Get dd a phone of cheap iPad that she can talk to her dad on with out it having to go through you.
Maybe he just doesn't want to.
I believe if/when the time comes in my relationship that there won't be another. I've been in this one a long time. It's not like I won't know what I'll be missing.
Doesn't mean there's anything wrong, it's just a personal preference.
He's not badgering you, or pressuring you. Maybe he really sees it's best remaining friends. You won't know if you don't talk to him.