My daughter is 12 (grade 6).
About a fortnight ago they got a new boy in their class, he's from overseas and apparently all the girls in the class are falling for him because of his accent (😂 my daughter's words lol).
My daughter isn't interested in him, or boys in general at this stage. However, he asked my daughter if she'd be his girlfriend. She politely declined and he graciously accepted that - all good on that front right?
The problem is, my daughter's best friend had/has a huge crush on this boy. She's now not talking to my daughter because of what I mentioned above.
My daughter has apologized to her friend even though she didn't really understand why her friend was mad because she hasn't done anything wrong. No avail either.
I've told my daughter that some girls can be funny about boys and she should just wait until her friend gets over it basically, which she seemed to accept. But now I'm wondering if I should have offered her something a little more insightful?
It's not at the point we need to involve her teacher and this is really something I'd like to give her the tools to deal with herself.
I've never really had many female friends, so I'm actually not entirely sure how best to approach this.
So any advice would be appreciated.
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I think you did perfectly.
Sorry but there is nothing you can do. I had a similar situation in primary school. Ironically I have now been married to that person for 10 years. And I still don't have a clue how 12 yr old me could have handled it differently.