hi all,
im not exactly sure what im doing here or what im really asking but a bit of a back story is, im 26 mother of 4 beautiful children. last year i started out to be 110kg then started to loose weight with tracking my calories, i ended up getting down to 88kg by the end of the year, that was until i was sexually assaulted then i started to not care what i ate got back up to 100kg and started to have mental health issues. we i got back into loosing weight im 90kg now few months after. now my life is pretty stressful and people made fat jokes about me recently. now im having trouble eating at all i have lost 5 kg in 4 days..i have tried to reach out to my loved ones saying im struggling but no one seems to care. they dont know im not eating. i just think they will think im stupid. i have tried eating but i just cant do it. i just want someone to call me up and ask me if im okay, especially the ones that say if i ever need help just ask.
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Please make sure youre drinking water. And try some soup.
Your friends arent mind readers, they wont call you up worried about this, but if you tell them you need their help or you're struggling, they'll be there for you. Reach out. Open up.
You really need to see ur gp urgently and a psychologist tell them all this or show them what u have written. You need professional help by the sounds. Good luck!
poster here....i have sworn that i will never see another mental health organisation or doctor about my mental health ever again. i did when i got sexually abused and its come back to bite me in the butt. they had nothing but nasty remarks about me.
That's a huge roadblock to make for yourself. I'm sorry you had a bad experience, but dont let it affect you worse by digging your heels in on a point that only hurts yourself. There are good ones out there, and you have to agree you need good help.
you refuse to reach out to friends and family Or get appropriate care from heath care services. I’m not actually sure what advice you want. Your successfully shooting your self in the foot at every turn. Also are you drinking water? I don’t think it’s possible to lose 1.25 kgs a day just from lack of food. More likely a mix Of less food and dehydration. You need to keep hydrated. Even if your off your food for a few days it won’t matter.
Mean while youre suffering a history of abuse, trauma over the handling of that, eating disorders, body and health issues, and youre mentally blaming your friends and putting pressure there as well. That's a huge load to try to carry, and you add in that youll force yourself to do it without help.
Your friends are not professionals. You need professionals. And possibly that's why they cant engage in the conversation with you.
I am so sorry that you have had this experience, please do not let this stop you from reaching out and trying again. No mental health worker should make derogatory remarks about being abused or weight and to be honest it is frequently seen and there is even scientific research suggesting association between weight gain/eating disorders and sexual abuse. Anyone that knows their practice would certainly not judge you. Please request a Psychologist, some even work alongside of dieticians
Firstly I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Have you tried getting in contact with an organisation that specialises in sexual assault victims? Even just phone counselling to begin with. They are so helpful and are trained in this area. Eating disorders are a common health issue with assault victims, it’s something they can control when everything in their life is out of control, it’s a deeper underlying suppressing of emotions that can be healed with the right type of therapy. Don’t give up on yourself, you are so worthy of healing. There is so much help out there, it’s just a matter of finding the right therapist that you click with. It may take a few months or even years to find it but you will. Good luck xx
Ring 1800respect and talk to them about your sexual assault and the trauma after it being used against you and nasty stuff said. You don’t even have to use your real name or give your location unless you want to be linked to the right services that WILL really support you. If you don’t like the way the first person handles your call, hang up call again and 9/10 times you’ll get a different worker. Keep going till you find a caller that clicks with you and will support you (but the workers really are fantastic and deal with this and much more daily). It’s 24/7 so any time multiple times till you can get the support you need.
As much as it seems ‘easier’ to dig your heels in and not talk to anyone it’s really not. You have to gather every tiny bit of strength left in you so you can get the support you need and I really hate when people say this to me - so apologise for saying it - (but they are right) if you can’t do it for you then do it for your kids cause they need their mumma to be 100% cause if you can’t care for you, who cares for your kids?
I have absolutely no doubt in my mind you’re an amazing woman and absolutely beautiful as well, even if you don’t see it or believe it. You deserve the absolute best and when others let you down it’s not to bury you it’s to allow you the chance to grow and bloom!!
Be a flower babe!!! Cause you’re a damn fine flower but you’re going to have to water yourself first (ps I’m a sunflower cause I learnt how to shine on my own 🌻)