I’d say whatever you can reasonable afford, however I try and go for about $100 it’s not much (to some people) but it’s what I can afford and it’s what I would spend on a gift for the newlyweds if I was to buy one :)
Tradition, etiquette, what have you, if i was expected to contribute such an expense for a Wedding Gift, i simply wouldnt go. All gifts should be gracefully recieved , there are plenty of people who could never afford as much $250 a pop for a wedding gift / wishing well. My own kids don't even get gifts or money as pricey as that.
It's great for those who can afford to, but it should never ever be expected.
Depends whether I feel like I'm being instructed to be a vending machine or not. Whether they are young and starting out or older and financially solid. Whether they paid for everything and tried to fit everyone special in or parents paid for it and they're making pure profit off a giant wedding list. I know that sounds harsh but it's not. I might be very generous. I might just covethe costs to invite us (could be a lot still), I might go the amount I feel isn't going to be seen as rude only or I might choose to buy a gift because it's heartfelt and meaningful. There really isn't rules. I told my guests not to worry about a wishing well donation or gift and that we just wanted their company.
Depends on what you can afford. When we got married most people gave us $100-$200. There’s been weddings where I’ve just given a card because we were on a shoestring budget and had to pay for interstate travel and accommodation. I generally go with $100/$150, a card with a lovely message and I know they’re a bit old fashioned but I give a horseshoe too
I don't think there is a normal amount is there?
Depending on the wedding I've put in anywhere between $150 (which is $50 per person for our attending family) and $1000 (plus services, I'm a photographer).
1. How much the venue is per head?
2. What’s included (is it cocktail or sit down)?
3. Do I have to pay for any of my own alcohol?
Generally you offer how much it is per head, but if I am buying $50-100 worth of alcohol then I deduct that off the amount I would give. And if it’s cocktail I offer less because I’m generally hungry afterwards and need to top up.
Usually I contribute anywhere from $50-200, depending on the above and how close I am to the couple.
At our wedding, some people offered $20, some $50, some $500, and some $1000 (multiple people generously gave the latter amount).
Lol. I had cocktail food. Some people ate first just in case and we're bummed because the food just didn't stop. It was delicious and there was so much. So the next wedding I went to that was cocktail food I assumed there would be enough.... I was starving! The one after that, we put snacks in my handbag to be ok with both scenarios
It’s crazy how some venues cater to at least 10 pieces pp but some are like 4 per entree/main I’ve been to four cocktail weddings in the last few years and 3/4 we were starving afterwards. 1 was fantastically catered though!
I'm starting to wish I had invited all these people to mine! We had a small wedding of 40 guests, I'll admit that at that size I expected our wishing well to bring in $3-4000. We were in dire need of a new bedroom suite. The total was less than $2000, and considering how much I had gifted others over the years (I got married late so had attended the weddings of many of the guests), I'll admit to being a little disappointed. I know that is not what it is about, and believe me we had a wonderful day with our nearest and dearest.
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I’d say whatever you can reasonable afford, however I try and go for about $100 it’s not much (to some people) but it’s what I can afford and it’s what I would spend on a gift for the newlyweds if I was to buy one :)
$250-500 depending on how close friends family.
God, that's a shitload for a gift. ..wanna come to my wedding? I want you on my invite list if I'm gonna get as spoilt as that.
Etiquette states you try to gift what they’d pay per head.
Tradition, etiquette, what have you, if i was expected to contribute such an expense for a Wedding Gift, i simply wouldnt go. All gifts should be gracefully recieved , there are plenty of people who could never afford as much $250 a pop for a wedding gift / wishing well. My own kids don't even get gifts or money as pricey as that.
It's great for those who can afford to, but it should never ever be expected.
$50 is generous without re-mortgaging your house. As a minimum.
Depends whether I feel like I'm being instructed to be a vending machine or not. Whether they are young and starting out or older and financially solid. Whether they paid for everything and tried to fit everyone special in or parents paid for it and they're making pure profit off a giant wedding list. I know that sounds harsh but it's not. I might be very generous. I might just covethe costs to invite us (could be a lot still), I might go the amount I feel isn't going to be seen as rude only or I might choose to buy a gift because it's heartfelt and meaningful. There really isn't rules. I told my guests not to worry about a wishing well donation or gift and that we just wanted their company.
Depends on what you can afford. When we got married most people gave us $100-$200. There’s been weddings where I’ve just given a card because we were on a shoestring budget and had to pay for interstate travel and accommodation. I generally go with $100/$150, a card with a lovely message and I know they’re a bit old fashioned but I give a horseshoe too
Whatever you can afford. If you're at my wedding, I'm happy. I don't expect you to give me a minimum amount just because I decided to have a wedding.
I don't think there is a normal amount is there?
Depending on the wedding I've put in anywhere between $150 (which is $50 per person for our attending family) and $1000 (plus services, I'm a photographer).
Depends on a lot of factors for me..
1. How much the venue is per head?
2. What’s included (is it cocktail or sit down)?
3. Do I have to pay for any of my own alcohol?
Generally you offer how much it is per head, but if I am buying $50-100 worth of alcohol then I deduct that off the amount I would give. And if it’s cocktail I offer less because I’m generally hungry afterwards and need to top up.
Usually I contribute anywhere from $50-200, depending on the above and how close I am to the couple.
At our wedding, some people offered $20, some $50, some $500, and some $1000 (multiple people generously gave the latter amount).
Lol. I had cocktail food. Some people ate first just in case and we're bummed because the food just didn't stop. It was delicious and there was so much. So the next wedding I went to that was cocktail food I assumed there would be enough.... I was starving! The one after that, we put snacks in my handbag to be ok with both scenarios
It’s crazy how some venues cater to at least 10 pieces pp but some are like 4 per entree/main I’ve been to four cocktail weddings in the last few years and 3/4 we were starving afterwards. 1 was fantastically catered though!
We always give $100 to a wedding wishing well and $50 to an engagement wishing well.
I'm starting to wish I had invited all these people to mine! We had a small wedding of 40 guests, I'll admit that at that size I expected our wishing well to bring in $3-4000. We were in dire need of a new bedroom suite. The total was less than $2000, and considering how much I had gifted others over the years (I got married late so had attended the weddings of many of the guests), I'll admit to being a little disappointed. I know that is not what it is about, and believe me we had a wonderful day with our nearest and dearest.