What time do you expect you young teens (13/ 14yrs) to be home midweek and of a weekend?
I ask as we are starting to get the "all my friends stay out later" from our daughter. Mainly of a weekend.
What time do you expect you young teens to be home?
What time do you expect you young teens to be home?
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Before dark unless you or another parent are driving them home.
I think this depends where you live. I live in a small country town with virtually no crime and my 16 year old son and 15 year old step son can be out until midnight playing basketball with other kids in town. No way I would allow that in the city though. Also take into consideration their maturity and what they will be doing, are their friends good kids?
All young teens I know get dropped off and picked up by there parents at a pre-arranged time. They don’t just make there way home when they feel like it.
Parties/events etc still have a time limit and unless it is a planned sleep over I’d expect them home by 11pm on the weekend. Which I would drop them off and pick them up for. I think 11pm is generous.
Catching up with friends during the week is not something we do/did. They see each other at school, they have extra curriculars but I’d expect them home by dinner time unless they had arranged to stay for dinner at a friends house and I’d still be picking them up or the other parent dropping them home.
There will always be kids who have more freedoms but you’ve got to do what works for you. I kind of think 11 is more than reasonable as I figure if it was a sleepover they wouldn’t be getting much sleep anyway and I’d question any parents sanity that wants other peoples kids at there house past that time and most teen activities are shutting or are shut down by then.
All my friends is not a reason to be doing something. If you’re not comfortable with it as a mother it doesn't happen. My mum used to say “if all your friends jumped off a cliff would you want to do it too?” 🤣🤣 im like my mum in that regard.
I had a when the street lights came on curfew if i was close to home, a 7pm curfew on a week night unless i was working and then it was 9pm and even then i was picked up and dropped off by an adult. On weekends i had a 10pm curfew and i had to be picked up and dropped off by an adult unless it was a sleepover and then i had a ill pick you up at 2pm and that was it.
7.30 -8.30 pm if they are out with other parents and their friends but my kids don’t go out alone and if they have a parent always picks them up. They do go to the shops sometimes but they do not go anywhere at night alone.
13/14 before it’s dark but they never go anywhere without a parent meeting them. If it’s just to the park then it’s around 5.30 ish as it starts to get dark but they are never allowed far from home or without parents being there.