I work Monday to Friday at a school. So I am lucky enough to get the school holidays off.. my problem is my holidays are never relaxing & enjoyable as I feel I am trying to do all my appointments I cant do in school term as a lot of places shut before I finish work, spend time with my own child, sleep in, do my house work, just try to chill but I struggle saying no to other people when they want to constantly catch up with me as they are board or their kids want entertaining from my child. How do I just say no without feeling guilty or bad? I hate it. I actually enjoyed covid lock down as that was my excuse to not see people. I feel im explaining myself & what I am doing to people & I shouldn't have to. I have to be social in my job but I really love to just do my own things, when I want on holidays not have to go on schedules for seeing people etc.
I need to learn to not care what other people will think of me, i just don't know how? I don't mind an odd catch up here & there but feel obligated each holiday. Hard to explain really. Would love to just go to some isolated cabin with my child & turn off phones & not see anyone at all for a good 2wks. Time to recover from the work term & get ready for the new term coming up. I think people must forget that its also my holiday to chill after busy work terms. Anyone else feel like this? Or words of wisdom in how to just tell people to just f""k of & not feel bad for doing it? Cheers mums
How to say no
How to say no
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You just say no. Honestly theyll be fine, theyrr just also trying to fill their holiday and asking people they think might be available or interested. They dont want a whole detailed explanation and excuses, just say no thanks Im busy. Or Im purposely doing nothing.
Just remember friendships go two ways, if you say no all the time then they will probably stop asking you.
I honestly could have written this myself. I work as a teacher's aide and have my own kids. I NEED that break to recharge and would describe myself as an introvert who craves alone/quiet time to stay sane anyway. I also have the problem that my husband is an extrovert and couldn't think of anything worse than spending all of his time off at home. We usually travel or go camping in school holidays as a compromise (he gets to be out and about, I get a bit of solitude, kids are happy) but that hasn't been possible lately 😔
I do try to do a few things to catch up with relatives/friends in the holidays as the kids like to see their cousins and schoolmates but once I try to keep everyone happy my 2 weeks has been completely filled with obligations.
Sorry I don't have any advice but I can totally relate x
I'm sorry but you get school holidays off. Many people work full time and don't get a break for years. Be thankful you have regular scheduled holidays.
What’s there to be sorry about!! Just because she gets school holidays off she is entitled to a break and not have to explain her self
To anyone. If I worked in a school I’d need school
Holidays off too and they bloody deserve it, they have our kids more than we do!!
It’s simple you just say No, ik
Sorry I am
Exhausted from
Working and enjoying some down time with the kids. If they don’t understand then sorry you need to cut them out of your life. I used to be like this and eventually I cut everyone out of my life that only caught up when it suited them because they had no problem with it. No need to explain to anyone. Enjoy your time and be honest. I couldn’t care less what people think now. If they don’t understand then they don’t belong in my life! I am
Much better and happier for it. I can’t deal with people
Like that!! Enjoy the break and stop caring what others think because frankly they don’t care what you think and it’s the truth and reality! Do what makes you happy!