Hi sisterhood
I'm going through a weird moment in time where suddenly I feel unneeded and unwanted. My partner of 12 years has recently separated from me, my teen daughter is now super independent and not home often and my son is almost 9 is moving out of the mummy boy cuddly stage and turning into a big boy whoch is great, but suddenly I'm feeling lost. My whole identity is changing, all of which is totally out of my control and all at one hit. I'm grieving my relationship with my partner which has took a huge hit on my mental health (on medication etc) and now my relationships with my children are changing naturally and inevitably aswell.
I know this can be a great opportunity for self-growth and to rebuild my own identity but I'm finding this difficult. I love to be needed by my family. I even wanted one more child but then my partner left. It's like I'm not ready for this next stage of my life.
Has anyone else experienced this? I'd love to hear your stories for inspo/positivity :)
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Maybe consider fostering a child?
Or if you like feeling needed a puppy could help fill the void, though I know it's not the same
I'm going through this now. A friend encouraged me to write in a gratitude journal and pick just one goal to concentrate on each week. It is really helping me from feeling lost and means that my kids are not feeling guilty for not spending time with me. I miss my partner terribly too
Sending hugs, mama. Look up co-dependency. It will explain a lot and help you find you again, so that you don't need to look after others to make you happy. x