The last couple of years of my previous relationship, I suffered through emotional abuse and the odd physical abuse at the hands of my then partner, and occasionally his family (emotional from them also, not physical). To the point my then partner had me feeling so low in myself that it was a waste of oxygen for me to even wake up every day, that I wasn't worthy of love or affection.
That was 2 years ago.
I've since met someone amazing, who I've started a relationship with. Him and his family are loving and supportive, total opposite to what I've previously experienced.
Unfortunately I've realised I'm still more damaged from my past than I want to admit and sometimes find myself questioning it all, and thinking about if my new partner does actually care and if his family has ulterior motives etc.. wondering if it's all just an act...
It may sound crazy but I know these thoughts and feelings are just all in my head and have no truth to them. But how do I get past it all? I just want to be done with what I went through, move on and be happy.
Please tell me I'm not alone in feeling like this?
Moving forward
Moving forward
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I needed counselling and time. It’s taken me 10years to fully move through domestic violence and all I suffered.
Firstly I want to say how brave you are. We are never the finished Products of ourselves, so be kind to yourself. Remember thoughts are just thoughts and we are the one who allows them in.
Maybe try a life coach instead. I’ve been to one very helpful because it’s proactive.