Hi sisters,
Please be kind 🌈☀️
I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for 2 and half years, we have been engaged for a year and half. We both have one child each, so we are blended family.
My partner has just told me out of the blue that he felt pressure to get engaged and now feels pressured to get married.
I feel very hurt as the pressure hasn’t come from me. We have changed our wedding plans multiple times and I now understand why.. marry is very important to me and I have been open about that from the beginning. Since he has told me this he is now being very cold and distant.
I’m unsure of what my question is more wanting some advice on what to do.
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Sorry but considering social distancing issues and general uncertainty, putting off a wedding would be so easy at the moment. I suspect he genuinely proposed and the pressure he is feeling is more recent. Does he see you as his forever? If not, he's taken enough of your time.
It sounds like it was a bit rushed, a proposal after only a year when you both have kids, I don’t think that was the best decision.
Now he may be rethinking it all, you need to communicate and find out what’s going on in his head.
If he needs time or if he doesn’t want to get married at all, then you make your decision.
If he needs time, I wouldn’t put pressure on him, will make matters worse.
It depends.
I think it’s important for future partners to know that marriage is important to someone. He had two options, realise that this relationship isn’t for him, because marriage isn’t important to him, or eventually get married.
I think after 2 and a half years if someone is having these doubts I’d be sending them on there way. If he is so easily pressured into something and is doing things he doesn’t want to do rather than communicate his feelings then he’s probably not healthy relationship material anyway.