I feel sick about this
I left my ex husband two years ago as we had some issues, our home was hostile and I wanted a better home environment for our kids so I moved a few hours away to be with my family for support.
In the last two years my ex has done a complete 180. He’s gotten a permanent job closer to us, bought a house and sorted out his drinking problems
The only thing holding us back from being a family is me and my anxiety. I lost my job and I’m struggling to find a new one with COVID, obviously I won’t receive any Centrelink support once we reconcile... I honestly don’t think I can afford this relationship until I’m back at work, but then am I just being selfish?
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Talk to him about it!! Not us randoms!
Your being clever.work on your relationship slowly whilst keeping your independence.
Yeah dont move back in like that, its not a good way to start being completely reliant on him. Wait until you're sorted and independent. You can still have a relationship and be a family.
There is nothing selfish about protecting your financial future and wanting a safety net if he blows things up again.
Be smart, take your time, you can be a family but live apart.
You are the one that is going to have to financially support the kids if he goes of there rails again.
I think he's done really well to show he's changed but don't feel bad about making sure you're independent enough to support yourself if things go sour again. There's nothing stopping you both from continuing the relationship while living apart for the time being. I think that adds a bit of excitement to the relationship anyway because it feels like you're back to dating and getting to know each other again.
You’re doing the right thing.