Is there any chance of someone who is doing ice to go back to the person they used be. I hate the way it’s changed my now ex husband, he used to be a great and no he’s not
Is there any chance of someone who is doing ice to go back to the person they used be. I hate the way it’s changed my now ex husband, he used to be a great and no he’s not
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From experience of my own, a family member was an ice addict for almost 20 years. He has now been clean 3.5 years and is a changed man.
It can happen if they are adamant about staying clean. Very few can stay clean. A lot relapse.
But those addicts who stay clean, and mean it, are changed for the better. But its a long hard road.
I'd argue that no person who's battled addiction ever goes back to the person they were before drugs took over their life.
Some people recover, come out the other side having experienced monumental personal growth and changing for the better, others are often not so fortunate. It really depends on the individual as to what the future holds.
Having said that, It's probably for the best to mentally prepare yourself for the possibility that the man you knew and loved doesn't exist anymore.
No they’re never the person you once knew. They will forever be a different version.
My ex is clean but the dv he inflicted on myself and our children has never fully stopped . His anger and temper is still on a hair trigger and I wouldn’t trust him as far as I can throw him
Without hesitation and from personal experience no I don’t think a person is ever truly the same after Ice addiction. I’ve seen people years clean and they are still not the same. Clean again, I know for sure but just not the same. It rewires the brain in ways that it can’t recover completely. It’s a drug in its own league 😔
No, they are never the same. As others have said it’s a ‘new them’ when they are clean. Becoming clean and staying clean takes great strength and commitment.
My partner is 13 weeks into recovery. He’s had a 20 plus year addiction. We’ve been together 4 years and for atleast 18mths-2 years of this he used daily and I didn’t know (but reasonable suspected) I had no experience with the ‘drug world’ didn’t know what to look for, expect or how to manage it.
It’s been a long, sad, hopeless and completely isolated road. He can be clean for 6-8mths then use once and it’s like we start the whole process all over.
13 weeks of being clean and not using and I still don’t know this man. He’s not the man I got with nor fell in love with, but he’s also not the man I know who uses either. He’s a dedicated father that wants to be and stay clean but every day he struggles to stay clean. He has intense disappointment in himself, he has dreams of using meth and hates himself for it because while in that dream he’s happy to be using but wakes and is disgusting he was happy. He hates the drug but the drug loves him. The drug loves anyone that uses it.
So no, he’ll never be the same because even when he’s clean he’ll still be fighting his demons and feeling like he has so much to prove not just to himself but everyone around him that he hurt while using.
They can recover though, but never to be who they once were.
Since he’s been using probably the whole time you’ve been together, I don’t think youve even met the pre ice person.
True I have never met the ‘pre-ice’ person, he started using meth off and on as a teenager. I met him as an adult.
However he was clean (for 3 years) when we first met, and then right up until about 6mths into the relationship.
So I guess in my terms it should have been ‘using’ and ‘not using’.
Regardless the point remains the same though, they guy I met (clean but past user) is NOT the same guy that was using (and lying) and is still NOT the same guy now 13 weeks from last drug lapse.
Yes absolutely, my brother in law was addicted for years but still worked etc , just withdrew from the family a bit. He is clean for about 3 years and is back to his old self. My sister and him have repaired their relationship that was broken during his addiction and they are happy as ever. He is doing great.
My husband is a recovering addict and has been clean for 5 years. With the help of NA he is once again the man I fell in love with, but an even better version. He respects himself, he loves us and he helps others, he is truely changed and I adore him 💕
I'm a single parent to three amazing kids. The youngest is 3. I've been clean for 3years! I did it for him and it's one of my greatest achievements in life, getting clean and getting off ice is hard but achievable. I think I'm the same person I was before. A little bit smarter and wiser maybe! My memory is absolutely shocking, health wise a few problems from the use of ice but overall same person. So yes, I think it is possible to be the same person.