Hello all, I had my 7 year old in tears this morning regarding the hair on her upper lip, it has got a little darker recently which I’m gathering is her body starting to change, I keep telling her how beautiful she is and that god made everyone different and some people have lighter hair and others darker etc but it’s really getting her down, I have asked her if anyone at school has mentioned anything and she keeps saying no but did say this morning that she is embarrassed incase people are looking at it when they talk to her, has anyone been through this and would have some advice on how to approach? I obviously know that hair removal at this age is not appropriate. Thanks in advance
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I honestly would remove it, I don’t think it’s an issue to remove it if it makes her feel better about herself.
I'm basically an older version of your daughter. I got dark body and facial hair in the genetic lottery and I felt like a freak. I know logically now that there's nothing wrong with me but the damage from years of being teased about it can't easily be undone. My mum didn't let me do anything about it till I was a teenager, then only bleaching. Now I wax it. I'm terrified to be in public with it dark. Probably no one else notices, but it really affects my confidence. Thank goodness we're wearing masks in public in Melbourne since I can't wax it right now!
If it was my daughter, I would find any way possible to avoid her going through what I went through. If there's a gentle way to remove it, let her do so.
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One of these are a painless way to remove facial hair. It's bothering her, removing it isn't inappropriate.
That's a shaver though. It will grow back spiky
I had the same issue when I was younger. One very large eyebrow and top lip hair, very black and thick. I was 15 before I was allowed to get rid of it. I’m now 30 and still self conscious about it. I dropped out of school by 16 because the bullying was that bad from grade 4 to year 10 I just couldn’t take another year of it. That caused huge issues with my mother as she felt I should just suck it up and stop being a princess. I now haven’t spoken to her in 9 years and she hasn’t met her grandchildren. If she has noticed it and it bothers her please help her fix it. Don’t wait for other people to notice and make fun of her.
I told mine that everyone has hair. Some is light, some is dark, or catches the light at different times, but everyone has it. She didnt mind so much after that, even quite confidently informed people that they have hair too, duh.
I was your daughter when I was young and it was a blow to my confidence. A friends sister bleached mine for me at age 12 or 13 and it was the most amazing thing for me. I’m 35 now so I’m sure there’s a more gentle approach then back then but I would look into it for sure. I went onto waxing when I was a little older. I had very dark hair on my arms, legs and lip wasn’t crazy bad and I only had a few comments made about it but I was so self conscious about it and it was such an easy fix. Good luck Mumma x