I am newly separated. What do I do now? It was a mutual decision, we are still amicable and co-parenting together.
I still care for him but I know this is the right decision. I can't help but feel hollow.
How do I make new friends - after 10 years of having someone always there and having "couple" friends.
What do I say to the kids? They are too young to really understand and think Daddy is just at work.
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We need more info... How old are your kids? How long have u been separated for?
New friends, join a local group, join the gym, there are fb groups for single mums too - search those and join them. You don't need to have single mums as your only friends but one or two is helpful as they get where u are coming from.
I'm sorry you're going through this. So am I, after 13 years. Our situation sounds similar, not many friends and I'm yet to tell the kids. I have no advice but I wanted to let you know you're not alone. I'm trying to refind myself which is difficult with lacking motivation and feeling so empty and alone. One thing that is helping me, is to focus on each day as it comes. I find if I worry about the future (e.g. who I'll hang with on the weekends etc) then it crushes me even more.
Sometimes in relationships we lose ourselves... is there something you've been wanting to do for a while but kept putting it on the back burner due to being too committed to family life? Try find a hobby - I have started macrame, getting out in nature also really helps. Long walks, lonely but refreshing and recharging. Some days it's an effort but we'll worth it. You just never know who you'll bump into, get chatting and make friends with. I am also joining a netball club. Very much out of my comfort zone but I need to meet new people and rebuild my life. Are there any social sports you could try? Bootcamp classes are also a great way to meet people. Hard work but good fun. What about playgroup if your children are young? Or being more involved at school and meet other parents?
It may take some time to rebuild things and feel happy/content and whole again, but stay strong. We'll both get there xx
I am in a very similar situation but 20 years together and two teens. I feel a bit lost even though both kids are with me in family home. My husband was sexting other women and was very protective of his phone. I am not broken hearted as it hadn't been great for some time but it's still hard getting used to. I send you strength x