Step kids part 2
My post was rather confusing so let me explain it properly
My partners daughter always comments on what my partner spends .. he is an adult he works hard - I work hard- I just find it really strange that she even thinks it’s her business !
Personally I just think in general it’s rude !
Thank you for all ur input - just to set the record straight there is absolutely no jealousy between my partners relationship with his daughter from my end !
After I told her I was no longer taking her children to school - she has wiped me and practically her father ! I believe I was standing my ground on the respect aspect here
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It does sound rude, but the thing to remember now is that its his relationship with her. And they will probably make up, and thats a good thing, but you two may not, and youll need to be the bigger person in encouraging him and being nice to her while keeping your own boundaries.
I commented on your original post & I'm glad you stopped offering to take her kids to school. You've kept your self respect & shown you won't be treated poorly.
From experience, I pretty much knew she'd wipe you. She'll say it's your fault but really you just aren't useful anymore. It's happened to me with 'friends'.
If she wishes to comment on her father's spending don't worry unless she tries to influence it - in her favour. My MIL comments & gives 'advice' on everything I do/buy/say. I can't stop her, so I just don't tell her.
Good on you. She sounds like a spoilt brat, you did the right thing.
Can I just comment as the bio parent (and I am both step and bio so I understand both sides). When you complain, bitch, whine etc (rightly or wrongly) to us as the bio parent you immediately put us in a very uncomfortable situation. We love you both and even though we may agree with what you are saying it hurts. So over the years I’ve stopped and I’ve asked my partner to stop too. I either speak directly to the adult child about the behaviour that affects ME and I encourage my partner to do the same or I just shut up. Complaining to me about my child being rude or disrespectful to my partner isn’t helping and one relationship will lose. Sounds like the father daughter relationship is about to lose here