I was with a guy for 6 months of whom used me basically, he had no licence and I drove him everywhere, not once did he put money in for fuel or offer to help in any way. (We didn't live together). Wanted to go half of everything down to the cent.
He offered to lend me $300 in total towards the end of our relationship (suspect his way of trying to buy my love).
Now we have separated and a month later im receiving loads of harassment over it.
Im the kind who has lost alot from exs and taken many losses so I expect him to move on especially given he took me for a ride in many ways.
Would you repay it? Or ignore his blocked calls and voice messages...
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You chose to drive him around! You could have said no or you could have asked for help with fuel but you didn't.
Did he take advantage of that? Yeah, probably.
Does that mean you aren't responsible for your debts? Not at all!
You agreed to the terms of the loan at the time, the decent thing to do is pay the money back. You do owe it!
Just because you've been fucked over in the past doesn't mean you get to do the same to someone else, it's a very toxic mindset to believe he should move on and accept his loss.
At the very least, you pay him and he'll probably leave you alone. You don't and this continues...
Unfortunately the operative word here is he offered to "lend" you $300 and you agreed to it.
Yes I understand you drove him everywhere, that's what couples do. They help the each other. You guys went halves with other expenses, why not this one?
Note to self, next time take and dont give, dont keep giving. 6 months of that is way too long. But if the 300 was an agreed loan, ending a relationship doesn't cancel that. If it was a loan and you spent it on yourself, pay it back. Unless he fleeced you out of lots of cash or property and I dont mean petrol money.
Yeah, pay it back so you can both move on.
Why is debt in quotes when you fully acknowledge it was a loan, not a gift?
Stop trying to fuck him over. Pay him back. You are exactly like him but have the audacity to blame him for your choices to drive him around, when you're no different to him. You agreed it was a loan. Morally, you owe it.
Legally, you probably don't unless you've agreed in writing that its a loan.
Pay the guy back what u owe him and move on.
Clear you conscious, pay it and get it over with. Than block him from your life.
You borrowed money, pay it back
It was an agreed loan, pay up.
Don't be so giving next time, or at least only give what you're willing to not get back.
My partner lost his license ages ago through his own stupidity. If he wanted to go grocery shopping he went when I did. He had to organise a colleague to pick him up and drop him home, and bum lifts from friends. Not quite the same as you can see but the outcome is the same. Losing ones license like he did, or choosing to not drive, is a choice and it's then up to the individual to work within the consequences of that.
And it flows into many different scenarios.
They don't go to work and lose their job, they don't maintain their vehicle and it breaks down, They get notice to move and ignore it until too late. Choices and consequences. It's noble to want to help, it's a problem when you think you're a saviour and have to make it all better.
For the sake of $300 I'd just repay it, be rid of him!
just block him
And move on!
Just pay it back and move on or block him and move on.