Do you ever regret leaving your partner?
I don't love my husband. We live comfortably and have beautiful children. He is a great father but we have grown apart. I am not happy.
I feel that we always fight and bicker. It just isn't worth it any more. I am always disappointed with his lack of communicating, half arse attempts of housework and I have to compromise to watxh his TV shows or do what he wants.
I've been doing self help courses and thinking positively yet I am still miserable and feel weighed down by him.
How on earth do ae a single mum? Am I just creating extra work for myself? Should I just stay purely for the help he gives me with the kids? How do single mums afford life - there would be nothing left over after I pay bills from my wage and even with child support factored in yet he would be able to cover bills and have surplus.
Edited to add: he is aware of the issues, we have been to counselling and things improve for a day or two but then revert back.
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Not for a single minute. I have loved every moment of the single mum challenge and would not trade it.
Is he aware of these issues?
Have both of you made any effort to help fix these issues.
Not just talking about it together, but maybe with a councillor?
Yes, been to counselling. He never changes. I have lowered my standards and I am still disappointed by his lack of ambition and resistance to housework or understand me.
To answer you question, yes it’s a lot of work being a single mum.
I didn’t have a choice, my ex left me.
Do you work full time because if not, you will probably have to.
Try every avenue before you do go down the single mum route.
Am i happier? That’s big yes, but my ex was an arsehole lol
Idk, if there isnt a significantly bad reason to leave, I'm inclined to say you should work on it. And then I saw in comments that you've tried counselling ect ect, so maybe it is time to leave.
I dont know, you just dont sound convinced on leaving and I'm generally one to say that people give up too easily on each other these days just because they aren't happy. Who's to say you'd be happy on your own or with anyone else???
Not for a second. I'm counting the days until I can apply for a divorce. It wasn't until I left that I really faced up to just how much was wrong with our relationship and how toxic it was for all involved. I'm smiling more each day.
I work full time and my kids are old enough not to need daycare after school hours etc. You'll also be eligible for c/link assistance in some way shape or form which helps too.
My ex and I split in March. Best decision I’ve ever made. I figure that when the time is right you just know. If one ex was to come back into my life then I’d probably get back with them but when we split it was for the right reasons. But we’d be good now.
Yes I did regret it and went back after two years. Worst decision. He left me for another woman anyway