My ex has been dating his girlfriend since April. She has 2 children (only 1 lives with her) and my ex and I have 3 boys. Before she came along we had an agreement of weekend on/weekend off with the kids which was wonderful. Now it’s changed to 2 weekends in a row on/off because her kid won’t be there. She also is dictating to me what I should be feeding my kids to make it easier to eat her food when they go to her house. My middle son, hurt his ankle at soccer 2 weeks ago and I was trying to comfort my son (I’m also a student nurse) and she pushed me out of the way and said “I am a healer” and proceeded to place her hands on my sons ankle and pray (btw she didn’t heal my sons ankle lol). I have heard lots of stories about her from reliable sources and want to warn my ex but don’t want to interfere at the same time. She dates people, racks up a massive debt and then leaves. In saying that, they bought a $35000 car together after 2 months of dating. She’s really starting to piss me off particularly about my kids. Does anyone have any advice please????
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Do the two weekends in a row, does it really matter it’s still the same amount of time spent with dad, feed you kids way you want and stay out of the rest. It’s not your business what happens in their relationship. Also tell your “reliable source” to keep their information to them selfs and stop being a gossip
Put your hands on her and bellow "BE GONE DEMON SPAWN"
Sorry, I know it's not helpful but all you can do is ask your ex to keep the kids arrangements between you and him
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Firstly she has no say in your children’s upbringing or how you and your ex decide to raise them or care arrangements make that clear say it once and make it stick!
Secondly don’t even bother about warning your ex it’s not your problem nor does it have anything to do with you just let them both fall on their faces.
Best of luck
A. Your ex's stupid relationship choices aren't your problem. He's a big boy, chances are he knows all about her reputation if it's as well known as you say. He most likely won't appreciate your interference and will just chalk it up to you being the crazy, jealous ex anyway.
B. Humour her and continue to parent your kids how you see fit. Feed them what you want. Chances are she won't be around permanently no matter how all this plays out.
C. Trial the 2 weekends on, 2 off. If it doesn't work out in the kids best interests maybe you'll need to get the ball rolling for some mediation and getting a proper parenting plan in place.
Coming from someone whose ex let his new partner call the shots with our kids from early on I say you should tell her straight now to back off and back down. It is unacceptable. I made the mistake of not wanting to be the bitchy bio Mum and kept my mouth shut and it ended in my kids getting treated awfully and not wanting to go, they now have no relationship with their Dad even though he's not with that woman now. Tell them both you will not tolerate any bullshit or input from her whatsoever.
Just say no. Tell your ex his gfs requests are going to cause issues. Tell him to protect his finances, and then but out and leave him to it.
I'd only change my custody arrangement if it was fine with both parties and the kids. If you don't want to change weekends for her, don't. As for the rest of it, I wouldn't give her the time of day to be honest. Just be polite and ignore her irrational behaviour and comments. If she escalates as a result, then I'd be calling a spade a spade and explaining what her boundaries are as far as you and the kids are concerned.