We are separated and husband keeps discussing money with kids. I asked if he can share drop offs & pick ups for sport as im doing majority. Dad told my son if i agree to 80/20 i have children 100% he will think about. All he talks about is $$$ my concern is kids. We dont talk he drinks on thurs & fri and has girlfriend long distance so he is busy with drinking & demands of girlfriend! Not sure what to do. Ive told my son i will not have discussions with him re $$$. Please advice
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How old is your son? Ask your son not to pass messages onto you anymore and explain briefly that its not open for discussion via him as its not fair for him to be involved via his dad. You said you have done this, so that's good.
Also stop blaming your exes girlfriend. He needs to be his son's father, so its not her fault , its his. You dont talk to him anyway so you don't really know anything about his life.
Do you do the same and talk about your assumptions about your ex to your son too? This is so childish.
End of.
Tell your son you will sort it out and for him not to worry about it.
Then approach his Dad and talk to him about it. Your son shouldn't have to be the middle man. And you saying you won't have discussions is basically just shoving him right in the middle.
Partners ex does the same thing it is not very nice having a 15 year old arguing with his Dad about child support. You can tell child support he is discussing it with your child and they should ring him and have a chat as it goes against their recommendations. It should be law because it's mental abuse imo. Besides that there is not much you can do.
Is there any reason he can’t have the children? He’s asking for more, you’ve asked for help. Win win. What he does on days without the kids is no longer your concern