I have recently repartnered. Everything has been great except that he arranged for poker nights at least 1/2 times a year, including top less dealer and waitress with ‘his mates’. He also has boys nights every couple of months which are BIG nights and may also include topless waitresses but not always. He doesn’t have kids, I do. Though he is adamant he is accepting of mine and wants our own child, I just feel like this behaviour tells me he isn’t ready to grown up and is still focused on being ‘one of the boys’ it really doesn’t sit right with me but am I just being sensitive having come from a horrible previous relationship?!
How would you feel?
Poker nights
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I have no problems with Hubby going occasionally to watch strippers but having stripper and toppless waitresses at a private poker game is a big no for me. I Especially wouldn't have been happy with it in the beginning of our relationship
Your values don’t align. Move on. I’d find that very unattractive
I would ask him if he’d be ok with you having girls nights with mostly naked men serving you? As others have said only you can decide what’s ok in your own relationship but he doesn’t respect your feelings and wouldn’t want you to do something similar I think you have your answer
I know someone who worked as a topless waitress for a few weeks. She couldn’t handle it and has a changed view of men because of it. The amount of men who were getting ‘extras’ from the women was appalling. Most of them NOT single men. Only her and one of the other girls (from a group of about 15 in the team) wouldn’t do any extras. The rest did. And she said about 80% of the men paid for extras. I would absolutely not be ok with my SO organising or attending regular parties like this. The only exception would be a bucks. Even then, I’d have to really trust my SO.. But I still find the whole thing degrading to women and gross, and gross of men to think they need to have this kind of party to have fun.
I know someone who worked as a topless waitress for a few weeks. She couldn’t handle it and has a changed view of men because of it. The amount of men who were getting ‘extras’ from the women was appalling. Most of them NOT single men. Only her and one of the other girls (from a group of about 15 in the team) wouldn’t do any extras. The rest did. And she said about 80% of the men paid for extras. I would absolutely not be ok with my SO organising or attending regular parties like this. The only exception would be a bucks. Even then, I’d have to really trust my SO.. But I still find the whole thing degrading to women and gross, and gross of men to think they need to have this kind of party to have fun.