Has anyone husbands suffered from trauma following the birth of your child? Our sex life is pretty much non existent following the birth of our second child (7 months ago). He also hasn’t given me oral sex since before she was born. I brought it up with him last night and he was very honest (I pleaded him to be brutally honest because I knew something was up) and he said it’s because he is still recovering from everything he saw during delivery. He explains it as there was so much blood and now thats all he sees when he looks down there’s etc. He said he’s struggling to see me in a sexual way since watching me go through it all again a second time. Anyone else experienced this? How I can I help him and us get through this? I want him to feel sexually attracted to me again :(. He kept assuring me that he loves me so much and is still so attracted to me etc.
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All you can do is give him time to recover emotionally. Maybe suggest he talk to somebody. Birth trauma does ant only effect women. Kindness and understanding
I actually noticed my husband stopped going down on me for ages after the birth of the third. This is probably why. Just wanted to let you know your not alone and things have improved! Our youngest is 16 months now and our sex life is great again.