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What should you do when your husband really doesn’t like you???? Married for 11 years together for 16.... and he seems to suddenly hate everything you do. He hates what I feed the kids for dinner he hates that I didnt feed the fish their normal frozen food and instead fed them flakes. He thinks I do nothing at work and am lazy I dont work and haven’t worked hard in 3 years.

Tonight was fucked. He asked me about 8 times if I wanted him to leave and kept calling me mate. I don’t like being called mate... that’s not what you call your wife and he knows I hate it I told him I do. He told me he was going to leave, then he told me to leave, then wouldn’t let me leave and said my car is his not mine. I got hiM out of my car, there was a bit of a struggle and he at one point had his arm around my neck and pinned me for a short time against the wall. I got in my car and then spent the next hour sitting in my car with him standing behind it so I couldn’t leave unless I ran him over. He was banging on the back of my car... I was at this point very scared. This is 1 in the morning and we have kids. I told him I need time to myself to cool down and to move out of the way numerous times. We have kids asleep inside. He finally moved and I am finally away from the house and am down the street in my car thinking to myself what the actual fuck just happened.
I love this man but actually it doesn’t really feel like he loves me at all. During iso I homeschooled our kids, worked from home did all housework got up early to the kids on Sunday to let him have a sleep In, clean all the dog poo and gave him a great birthday (he knows how by letting all those people come over and I catered for them all without blinking an eye because it was his birthday). I told him tonight I was trying to be considerate and he replied with well that would be a first. I basically fucking honour the ground he walks on and he treats me like shit like he fucking hates me.
I know I am a pain I know I am damaged goods but he is the only person in the world I trust and he is my best friend. I feel so alone now I don’t have him.