Firstly I want to say how my heart breaks for everyone doing it tough because of coronavirus. It has been absolutely devastating for some people.
We have been lucky. Apart from hubby loosing some overtime that I didn’t use as part of my budget, we did fine. But now that isolation is all but over and life is getting back to normal I am finding it really difficult. I miss lockdown!! Sooo much!
I miss having my kids at home and I hate that they’re back to fighting and bickering now they’re back at school. I hate leaving the house, for anything. Once a week for groceries was more than enough. Hubby keeps sending the kids to their grandparents and taking me out for dinner which is really lovely and I don’t want to seem ungrateful or make him feel unwanted but I just want to stay home. I’m not worried about the virus, we didn’t get any in our area. I just don’t want to go anywhere. I don’t even want visitors. I want to stay home with my kids and work in the yard with my husband and not go anywhere. I’m starting to feel really stressed with after school activities starting back and I get a serious headache just thinking about going out. Is it just me?? I don’t think I’m developing a problem but I’m starting to wonder. Everyone else is so glad to have life going back to normal but I can’t explain how much I want lockdown back. I’ve always been a home body but this is feeling a bit more that that. I really don’t know what I’m asking. Is it just me?
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I enjoyed the lockdown too.
I feel like we were over scheduled before, and it was great to get back to basics. We’ve decided to maintain some of what we were doing and generally keep things slower and easier.
I can relate! I don’t want to go back to what felt like an over scheduled life. I’m happy to do a bit of socialising but nothing too hectic. I’m meant to be going away in a few weeks with a big group and I’m kind of dreading it 😆
Maybe you are overscheduling your time. Maybe you do have a bit of anxiety that's making you want to stay in all the time. Choice is good, which is what you have now. Balance is good. Community is important especially for childrens development and I think mothers support.
Ps my daughter's psych recommended still getting out daily during lockdown, so as not to bring that zone of comfort bubble down to being the limits of the house. Walks around the neighbourhood, bike ride, trips to the beach. Now that it's not locked down you have many more choices too, which can still be relaxed family time. I suggest you try that daily as well and then see how you're feeling in a fortnight.
I wish I missed it but for me it meant still working full time and leaving my kids home alone. Day in day out no one to talk to but my children (no partner) I’m a home body too and love my space but connection is so vital.
Don’t do after school activities if it’s stressing you out?
We don’t do any due to not enough money and no one to get the kids to things while I work.
It’s great to love being home but it does sound like a deeper issue for you?
I feel ya ❤️
I don't miss it but thats because I didn't even get to experience it. I actually ended up with more work hours and I'm a single mum so my kids were always at school. I was rarely home. There's nothing wrong with missing it, you need time to go back to your life before Covid that's all.
We both worked through.
I don't envision life ever going back to as we knew it to be honest, we're just getting used to the new normal.
same. I definitely wasn't ready for normal again. But its definitely taught me the certain aspects of iso that I want to implement in our normal day to day lives. We are keeping things slow and not jam packing everything. Things can wait. And we can space things out as we pleasr.
Not just you. A lot of people enjoyed the time as a family because it was a legit reason to just focus on your family and spend time together and not have to be racing around for pickup and drop off and ballet and basketball and swimming and parents club and school yard working bee and all the other ‘catchups’ we are fitting in around our actual work and running a household. We schedule so much, all the time and this is the reason people say things like ‘I’m so busy’ or ‘I’m so stressed’. And it’s expected of us. If you’re not doing those things, you’re not trying hard enough to win at life. For the last few months we haven’t felt that constant pressure to be that way and a lot of people are missing it now. It’s okay to take your time getting back into the world, and you don’t have to go back to how it was before, just do what you want to do. So no, it’s not just you.