Husband wanting another baby.
Hi mummas!
I’m a mother of 2 beautiful kids luckily one of each. My baby is off to school next year. and I’m thinking I’m free I can start my life, change jobs if I want.? Currently working away on a casual bases. But hubby can let go his need for another child.? I feel against it, I have my life back and life is so easy.!!
How did you know if it was right to have another one or not.? We r happily married for 10 years, I adore my husband Nd he is such a hands on father. But I’m just so happy to have my life back!!
How did you decide.? Also it would be a 5 yr age gap!
Thanks Mummas
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What if you propose he's the stay at home dad (after 6 months or so) and he does the majority of care and the night wakeups, maybe trial that set up now and see if he actually does it?
I gather you’d be the primary carer in this situation so unless you are all prepared to change the financial and caring dynamic in your household I’d say nope.
The age gap isn’t a factor for me, it’s that you sound emotionally ready for the next phase in your life.
A no outweighs a yes
Im in the opposite boat. He says no and I want another. But I have a 13 and 11yo and he has a 9 and 7yo. He wants to start acheiving other things and as all the kids are independent he doesn't want to go back to baby stage. So no wins in our house although I keep asking. I had resigned to a no 18 months ago and agree with his plan but my mirena just had to come out and so I started thinking again. But he still says no and if I want to achieve the dream of buying a house and having holidays a baby kinda doesn't fit so I'm just trying to readjust to no again.
Maybe give him a future plan of what you want to do and help him see how a baby doesn't fit that and help him come to terms.
A bit does fit, you make it fit just like the last ones. I couldn’t do it if I really wanted a baby that much, then I would depending on age like under 35. I have the house, I travel everywhere with my 3 babies and I can tell you id give up the house in a flash to have a baby. I just think the material things mean nothing.it doesn’t sound like you have kids together. No wonder you want one so bad. Imagine how loved they bub will be. It’s such a blessing for everyone. Hopefully you can talk him around. Good luck
A baby does fit, was meant to say.
Totally understand, it’s more than often the husbands who don’t want another. You are every lucky he is so hands on. Why don’t you think about him staying home with baby and you continue your career after bubs. I’d suggest if you do decide to then do it now it’s better sooner rather than later. If you don’t then our husband will have to deal with it. It’s nice to hear a man wants more kids so much but it is you and your life that mostly gets put on hold. Only you can decide if you can really go ahead with another one or not. I think I would for my husband if he was a great hands on dad. I had 3, it’s a little more chaos but it was the best decision.