My partner of 10 years, living together and buying a home for the last 2 years had told me last night he cares about me but is not ‘IN LOVE’ with me anymore.
The reason apparently is all my doing according to him.
For the past 3 months he chooses to sleep in another bedroom. In 3 months we have made love approximately 3 times and the next night he’s back in the spare room, making me feel very used.
Is there anything left to work on here or is it time to leave?
I feel I deserve a man who is in love with me.
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Did he ask to do marriage counselling? Did he give you the heads up before moving in the other room that the relationship was in trouble? Were any of his reasons valid and did you know about them earlier?
I would at the very least stop having sex with him.
If there were no kids together I’d definitely move on my way. If he hadn’t suggested that he’d like to repair the relationship I’d be on my way. If he didn’t give you any explanation and just moved rooms I’d be on my way.
I think sometimes it's natural not to feel "in" love in a way, you're not wrapped up and consumed by them after 10 years together. And things become super comfortable. I feel like that's okay, and normal.
But the fact he chooses to sleep in a different room and kinda uses you for sex when it suits him, isn't normal. Or okay. That's the issue...
I work with a lot of men. The men who are cheating do this exact shit. I don’t want to be horrible but is there any chance he is seeing someone behind your back?