I have a question, I am unsure if I am over reacting or not... I don’t think I am, feel quite upset over it. So my sister was coming over every day for exercise with me anywho the other day I was going through fiancés phone and found a screenshot of said sister in a bra and undies and I also found a photo of her butt in exercise shorts (she was standing right beside me and he has moved the camera so it was just on her)... then I also found a video of her doing deadlifts ( it was the back of her so her bum bending over doing it) and then another screenshot of her in a half top showing her “toned belly”... please give me advice I’m so pissed... she Wud come over get changed down to bra and undies in kitchen or wherever and say “don’t come out here cause I’m getting dressed to him” but then sends a pic of bra and undies to him anyways... I’ve ignored her since Sunday and have not exercised with her since sat... these are just wat I found... whether he has deleted other stuff or not I do not know and it makes me wonder and then I get so much more angry 😭😭😭 we are currently in different rooms..
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My fiancé would no longer be my fiancé.
Did your sister send pics or was he taking them all on the sly?
she took a photo of herself in bra and undies on Snapchat and sent it to him then his screenshotted that. Then the video of her exercising bending over and the photos of her beside me of her ass in exercise shorts was on the sly.
It’s so gross and inappropriate on both there parts. I’d dump both there asses. You deserve so much better than this.
If they haven’t physically cheated yet, they are working there way up to it. Any guy or sister who would think this is ok behaviour don’t deserve to be in your life anymore.
It’s totally wrong of course. They’ve both betrayed you.
Wow. Ex fiancee and sister in my books.
Um. That’s hideous! Creepy. I absolutely couldn’t get passed this! You are well wishing your rights to be ANGRY!
You’re not wrong at all! But don’t just be angry at him, your sister also overstepped the line by sending him picture/pictures.
The trust part would be gone for me.
I'd be in different states.
He's a dog. I'm so sorry but you are not over reacting, every normal woman with a scrap of self esteem would be hurt by this.
Don't hide what they've done. Openly call them out on their poor behaviour.
Why?
Because they're already down to fuck. When you remove yourself from this equation, because you deserve a fucking lot more than either of them are capable of being, they are likely to hook up. By not hiding who they are from everyone else you kind of shelter yourself a little. People in your life, the ones that deserve to be in your life, know you need support and hopefully they also understand you don't need a running commentary on what this pair of bottom feeding grubs are getting up to.
I wish I could say it's all a lie or that it could have been an honest mistake because your road forward isn't an easy one. There's absolutely no way though, both have betrayed you and when they get away with doing it (not once but already twice) they'll continue and it will crush you. Don't let them win.
Girl, drop that deadshit boy immediately!!
And fuck your sister right off..she was only coming around to be flirty in front of him.
Its good you found out now before they slept together. Hes a cheater and will cheat on you somewhere down the line, if not with her then someone else.
She completely broke the sister code and sounds like a horrible person.
Boot them both, you absolutely deserve better and will find someone who will treat you with respect!!
Yeah nah SEE YA LATER boy! And see ya later sister. What absolute disgusting humans!!!! What else is happening on snapchat that you can't see and read?! DO NOT stay with this prick.
I’d be angry with the pair of them.
If they’re not physically cheating, they soon will be.
Snapchat is notorious for the sending of nudes.
Awesome. So pleased to see everyone's response is that you're effectively under reacting. Gosh, I'm one of the people that gets upset at the advice to leave, but this isn't about working through something or understanding their perspective etc. Your sister and fiance have no respect for you. So you need to put your value on your future happiness and ditch them because you respect yourself. Find a man that loves you and shows that in his actions. Or be happy alone. Stay and you're setting yourself up for misery.
What an A Hole, I would not be engaged for much longer, if I was you!