Ive recently discovered that my fiance msgs other girls on instagram. These girls have like 5000 followers and he calls them gorgeous, sexy etc. Talks about things like "throw in some white chocolate and its a date". Not dure if this is consodered cheating or if i should be worried. Ive been cheated on a lot in the past so i could just be insecure? Just curious on others thoughts. Thanks
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He’s crossed a line! Don’t doubt yourself
Nah that’s not cheating
Do you think it's out of line and inappropriate?
Yuk, don’t marry him, he’s extremely disrespectful.
Do you want a future of self doubt and questioning yourself?
I would say he’s very open to cheating, if the opportunity arose.
He may not have yet.....
He's talking to women. Wh y would it not be cheating and totally disrespectful to you and your relationship. Because he's going to talk it down? The question is, what is your line, not his.
Yuk.
He's a random creep sending women he doesn't know flirtatious messages.
A little word of advice because you've got to hear it mate.
You've been cheated on a lot. This is 100% not your fault but it changes your mindset, if that makes sense? Like you see boundaries being crossed but in your mind you're ummming over whether or not it's really a boundary. That niggling little voice that made you come here and ask, that's the one to listen to. It recognises the wrong. Whether or not what he's doing would be okay with me or anyone else is immaterial, it's not okay by you.
I wouldn't say it's cheating, but not someone I would want to be with. Sounds like someone who will potentially cheat. He's your fiance, walk away!
Not cheating, but not the kind of guy I’d be with. Even single guys doing that is gross & creepy
Not cheating, but not the kind of guy I’d be with. Even single guys doing that is gross & creepy
Some might not think it's cheating, but I do.
It's disrespectful and a horrible thing to do to your SO.
I had a problem with my (new at the time) husband where I found him on an adult website talking to others.
I was done, until I spoke with my mum and she talked me through everything. We're now 2 years past it. I'm still not over it and bring it up as I have trust issues (from being cheated on in previous relationships).
He understands that I think it was cheating and if anything arose again I'd be out.
If I wasn't married, I would have been done.