Recently I saw online that my husband is telling people that our twelve year old daughter hits him with a horse whip and kicks in walls in apparent massive rages. None of this is true and when I ask him about it he just clams up or gets verbally aggressive with me. Am I overreacting or is there something really wrong with him saying those lies?
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Why would you ask if you're being insane if you have written evidence via himself?
It is very bizarre! Why would he lie about that... it is absolutely wrong. What is he getting out of the lie? Online sympathy?
This is really bizarre and I think you're best to bring in the professionals.
The fact he'll get verbally aggressive over it when you try to talk about it is a big problem and I wouldn't be brushing it under the carpet just because he wants to.
Something really wrong and what he is saying could really harm your child.
I’d be getting your daughter away from him for her own safety. Screen shot what he is saying for evidence.
He's setting you both up and if you're silent now it will haunt you later when it's all gone too far and becomes you against him. Well 'if it was all total bullshit why wouldn't you say that back then?!' Unless you're still thinking the man wouldnt tell harmful lies despite them being right there in your face.
How would something like that be a set up?
Are you kidding? If you can't.see how, the it's good you can't imagine it but it also makes you a prime target as you can't see it coming. Do you think its more likely someone tells a harmful lie like that about a child for good or bad? Do you think they do it once and never again before or after?
In what way does it make this person a prime target and for what?
I’m so confused by your comments, they make no sense at all and you haven’t explained what you mean in your reply
Different commenter....he’s starting a smear campaign behind your backs, there would me more, no doubt involving you also. Shits going to hit the fan, he’s probably living a double life, he’s discrediting you all before his nasty deeds come out. He’s creating an imagine of himself. This is sinister,,open your freaking eyes. I’m sure there’s been signs of what he is, for your kids sake, stop ignoring them.
No need to be nasty about it
Well you saw it with your own eyes, it’s not a rumour about what he said,, it’s the truth, staring you in the eyes.
I don’t want to sound alarmist but it could be just setting the child up. Maybe things are being done or said and this is the best way to discredit the child. I would definitely take this further. I would not leave your child alone with him and I would get to the bottom of it straight away. Maybe take your daughter out for a mother daughter day and have a chat and see if there’s anything bothering her. If you can tell that there is but she can’t tell you see if she can write it down and pass you a note. This is a terrible situation
I don’t mean to be an alarmist however it sounds like he’s setting your daughter up. He is trying to discredit her. The only question is why. I would definitely take this further and at such times I would not leave your daughter alone with your husband at all
He sounds crazy! Why would you make that sort of thing up! I think he needs help!
I'd be leaving.
What the actual..????!!! This is all kinds of messed up and you need to make sure he isn’t doing anything to your daughter. Sit her down on her own and speak to her ask if he’s ever touched her or done anything to her.? This is a major red flag here and why the hell would he say such things about his daughter. Go and seek some professional help, it’s not right. He is trying to discredit her.
Take your daughter out on her own, tell her she is safe with you and ask her if he has ever touched her. If he has go straight to the police with her. Something isn’t right about this. Open your eyes up and be alert to everything and think back.. has he shown any odd signs around her.? Make her know if he’s done anything it’s not her fault and get help ASAP don’t even let him know that you know, striaght to the police!! He is trying to discredit her, it’s a big red flag! Why would he do that.? I wouldn’t let my husband do this, I’d pack his shit and he would be out or I would leave. Bloody shocking!
Look, I'll be blunt.
My mom did this to protect herself from being held accountable for child abuse.
Then when it came to light my grandfather was sexually grooming me and I was being sexually abused by a classmate, she had already damaged my credibility that the disclosure was never taken seriously.
I will never forgive her.
Don't let this go. Protect your daughter. If he hasn't made his move, he will soon.
Wow. This is scary.
You've been given some great advice and I truly hope that your little girl is okay.
Have you booked an appointment with a GP?
Just thought I'd pop in and see if you have an update on your daughter? Hope she is okay ❤️