How do you all own your shape and size and be happy? I have struggled with my weight for 20 years and I'm so tired of being unhappy with how I look. The only time I was mostly content was when I was a size 10 and training 6 days a week. But that isn't sustainable now and without serious diet restrictions and exercise my weight is hard to keep down, I'm a size 14 to 16.
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Firstly I’m really careful about who I follow on social media. I work out hard and enjoy it, but my body will never ever be what most ‘wellness gurus’ would aspire to, and I don’t think it’s healthy to aspire to.
So I follow fitness and health pages that focus on how you feel about yourself and striking a balance. I carefully avoid any articles that discuss fad diets etc.
Getting out of that cycle made a huge step forward for me.
I also changed gyms from one that did weightloss challenges etc and went to one one that had a wide variety of people going from oldies, disabled to fitness fanatics.
It’s been a work in progress and of course there are days where I don’t like my body or part of it, but I think that’s normal for everyone. It doesn’t consume me though and most of the time I love my body. Focusing on what my body CAN do over appearance also really helped.
Hi,
I’m a size 14-16 too. I weight approx 85kgs and my weight fluctuates around 3kgs every month. I’m an average height.
I stopped following a lot of people on social media. I follow only people who make me laugh and aren’t constantly telling me I need to do better. I delete accounts that constantly post inspirational quotes. - I have enough inspiration and found being told constantly to do more was just draining.
I’ve started walking daily for peace of mind, and I’m starting to really enjoy just being me, listening to music, reflecting.
I’ve found self love and that kind of thing is just all in the mind. I’m happy, I can love my body for a range of reasons, but I
Will no longer hate myself for having “fat”.
Life’s too short for that.
Perhaps rather than focusing on your weight and what size clothes you wear, focus on overall health. Just because you are larger, it doesn’t necessarily mean you are unhealthy. You could talk to a dietitian to help you plan a healthy well balanced diet that can be incorporated for the whole family. Also get the whole family walking everyday. By getting the family involved it will help you to remain positive about becoming healthier. And as you become healthier hopefully you will become happier within yourself, then any weight loss will be a bonus.
You need to stop worrying about size and size up if you need to, but just make sure you're wearing clothes that fit, cover, support and make you feel good. It's a different style I find, I can't wear the same things as when I'm a smaller size, but you need to embrace those big supportive clothes and styles to look and feel good.
Wow, there were so many comments on this post earlier, where have they all gone?
I struggled for 30+ years with my weight. Up and down and lost 100's of kilos over the years only to eventually regain it and more.
I truely hated myself no matter how much self love I tried to embrace.
I stopped photos with my kids, I stopped going out with friends and even felt disgusting and uncomfortable in a room full of strangers.
Two years ago I had a gastric sleeve and wish I had done it sooner.
I have gone from a size 20 and 122kg to a size 10 and 65kg.
Im living my life again, I love myself and my confidence and personality are not being suffocated by my self loathing.
It is the best thing I have ever done with zero regrets except for not doing it years ago.