I’d love to hear some positive stories!
Firstly, I’m a 30 year old mum of two kids (3 and 5) I have my kids full time but with a very strong support network. I also work full time, have a generally active social life. My kids and I have a good life.
However, I would love a partner. Someone to join our tribe of three. But, not just anyone. I’ve been on plenty of dates, some have gone on for 5 months. But not one of these guys have met the kids.
I feel like giving up and negatively think who would want a single mum and two kids.
Mums, can I hear your stories? How did it happen for you? How did you find the missing puzzle piece?
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I found my partner of 4 years on Plenty of Fish. The guys I dated before that were kind of self absorbed and didn't seem all that into me. I thought it was just an adult thing because the last time I dated was in my teens. But when I met my partner it just felt right, he was always ringing and texting, he would ask a lot of questions to try and get to know me instead of always talking about himself. He really liked me and I really liked him and I think when that happens you just kind of make the other stuff work. He did not tick all my boxes that I had when dating and I think that's why he's perfect for me, you can write all the lists you like about what you want in a partner but none of it matters if you don't have that spark. So broaden your search, don't judge a book by its cover and look for genuine interest in you, a guy that wants you will make it obvious he wants you and not leave you confused.
It can take time and a bit of luck to find the right guy.
I’d rather be a single mum for the rest of my life than be with the wrong guy.
If you enjoy dating, enjoy dating and have fun with it. If you don’t, take a break for awhile.
There is no magic solution to meeting a long term partner. But remember the guys that are going to be interested in you will most likely be 1guy plus a couple of kids.
I've seen so many of my mum friends (and probably a million women on this page) fall into relationships with straight up shit human beings because they're so driven by loneliness. Don't be like them!
There are good guys in the world, unfortunately it seems as if for every good guy, there's 15 duds 😂
I truly believe you'll find your special person you just have to keep your standards intact, don't settle for some half assed guy because you're worried that's as good as it gets.
The right guy will see your kids as an added bonus, not a burden. Do not forget that!