I’m not sure how to ask this but hoping for some advise... how do I leave a emotional toxic relationship? How do I ask him to leave? We have 2 kids together and over 10 years together but it’s not working anymore, everyone around us sees that but him.. how do I kick him out?
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Why can’t you leave? Given his toxicity it might be the easiest option xx
Why do you need to kick him out? You can always move out. Unless you are the sole owner of the house
Yes you need to first off decide what will be better now and long term, whether you stay or go. Also how he will react will change how you tell him, but basically it's breaking up you need to say the words. Have clear in mind what you want, will you work on it separately, will you give him 3 months to work on it, are you completely closed to trying and ready to end it now.
It's so much better if you move out instead of him. It shows that you are serious .
Move out! It’s the easiest and fastest way to do it. He could drag this out for many years refusing to move out.
You are just buying into the toxicity if you try to create a fight about staying.
If he's as bad as you say, he's not going to leave. You will need to leave yourself. Unfortunately it's not so easy as just kicking him out!!
It’s hard to answer this properly without more info. Do you rent or own The house? Who is on the lease if u rent? Is there any record of abuse (the police would help if so). If it’s simply a break up then you need to have a conversation and make it very clear that it’s over and you want to stay in the house so he has X weeks to find a place and you will give him half the furniture etc. If he refuses you MAY be best to find another place yourself. You have every right to end the relationship and living arrangement and definitely should if it’s toxic (especially for the kids sake) but be mindful that you are going to have to co-parent until the kids are grown up so don’t want to make it super nasty. I would say that it’s not working but the kids are the most important so let’s do this as nicely as possible and always keep in mind that the kids are number one and no matter how upset/ angry he is, it needs to be civil and adult for their sake. Good luck and best wishes for your next stage of (happy) life x