Whrn im at work, cleaning houses or seeing my friends, im happy, i would drive home, music loud and as soon as i hit home grounds im in this miserable mood.
I do homework after wroking all day, cook, sleep. Im mowt of the time frustrated that my partner cant help out in the home during those long periods when his daughter visits. The washing and housework is justvoutrages, they leave the home, lights on, toys left out everywhere, and im just so frustrated. When i tell him if he could please learn to tidy up (as it also teaches her) im being called a bitch
Rarely but occasionally i ask him to complete two tasks while im at work 'i knew you will bitch again about something before you leave'. I kind of hold most 'bitching' in just to avoid being called that but at the same time am so bloody frustrated with everything. I like my house nice and he usually aint lazy unless she stays with us (for past 2 montha and just going back to mums next week)
She is the sunshine of his life and i just feel like im just the house maid that is only allowed to smile and walk around on ghostmode.
I cant stand her mum, no need to get into it, i have several reasons, and on occasions when she causes drama between us, i will just complain about her, how someone can just be so invading and evil. I get no response, usual just a 'u really need to go and see a psychologist', why is that? I think she needs one!?
'yeah maybe you guys could go and find one together ha ha ha. I feel like im always the bad guy and i feel like i could just be pissed off all day about something. Is there a way to change your mindset?
I was on antidepressants and i couldnt sleep with them, they helped me focus on positives rather than negatives which helped but surely this cant be the answer? I dont even know what i want... Advise or just a vent aince i cant vent anywhere else?!?! I just want to be the old happy chappy that isnt auch a prude pissed off person all the time. Im just so damn unhappy at the moment.
How can i get over this anger
How can i get over this anger
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It’s not ok that he calls you a bitch. Totally unacceptable, from anyone, especially your partner.
Is your relationship good for you? Time to really examine that. If it makes you this miserable is this relationship worth it?
Are there things that could help you? Yes, counselling to help you find those positives and get to a happier mindset. I don’t mean in an abusive way, I mean in a positive, I want to change my happiness at home way.
They can help you explore wether this relationship is for you and ways to be happy on your own, or happy in the relationship. It can also help you learn about healthy relationships.
Your happiness is your choice.
Start putting some.actions in place to change how damn unhappy you are.
There's a world of difference between can't and won't.
He can, he WON'T.
For as long as he's refused so you've done it, he's learned that being a beligerant cockhead about it (well TBH, he's probably always been a cockhead) gets him out of doing it.
Ask yourself if tackling this with him is actually worth it. Has your relationship with him ever been great enough to make you believe the hard work will pay off? Or has it basically always been like this the whole time but you had your rose coloured glasses on and overlooked the behaviours in the hopes he would improve?
For what it's worth, noone living in my home would speak to me like that. You really do get to control how others treat you by what you accept. Accept nothing less than at least basic human respect.
I would toss this guy to the curb! How dare he speak to you this way and you staying shows him that it’s ok to continue to do so! No wonder you are so depressed, you need to do something for your happiness and leave this man because his treatment of you is not acceptable.
You sound like you blame your self. He sounds like a selfish narcissit!
Bail him now if you don’t have your own kids to him.. it won’t get better if you have kids to him. He sounds lazy and selfish. If you can’t see living like this with your own family then get out, there is more happiness out there.
He is treating you exactly how you allow him to. Don’t put up with it. Make him clean the crap up, you aren’t his slave and once you have your own kids then that is your time but still wouldn’t excuse him for not helping. He sounds super lazy and disrespectful. I would be getting rid of him and finding someone with the same life goals and isn’t lazy.
If you want to try and make it work then go for it.
But as someone who has been in your shoes I’m telling you now kicking my ex out was the BEST thing I have ever done. Home is an amazing place now. The mess there is my mess and I’ll clean it when I get to it. I don’t walk on egg shells anymore and I’m actually happy to get home and don’t want to be anywhere else (which works now we are in iso) good luck Mumma.