Feeling defeated, I'm a mum of 4 married 15 yrs I have been working from home for 3 weeks and found that I am falling out of love with my husband he is lazy and seems not to notice I feel like i have 5 kids i have to remind him to shower he just plays Xbox til 4am doesn't clean or cook or really move and wonders why I'm cranky between work home school and daily life I'm getting cranky, I feel so unappreciated I just don't know what to do anymore we are in too much debt to separate it wouldn't be fair on the kids... I guess im asking what do ?
Falling out of love
Falling out of love
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It's only been 3 weeks, this pandemic is hard for everyone. It's no excuse for him to be lazy , but it is still a reason. Don't make any brash decisions over something that's been 3 weeks long for you, afterall you've been married almost two decades. Three weeks in that time is so little In the grand time of yiu both being together, so keep working on it and see how you can help one another succeed. If you said he was like this the full 15 years, i would have offered a different answer. Three weeks just isnt long enough to be falling out of love over him being lazy. He could be depressed about all this himself . Look into it together and work on it together. Its far too early to walk away, I'm a little shocked you've been considering to in just 3 weeks .
I assume he’s gone from working to not working?
It’s a transition, thankfully I’ve been able to work through it all but a couple of years ago I was off work for like three months and became a sloth.
It’s hard, he’s probably worried about money too.
I don’t think you could be falling out of love after three weeks, just a bit pissed off/angry at the moment.
Sir down, have a chat, make a routine, he needs a new routine to swap for the one he used
to have.
He hasn't worked for 8 yrs due to his health I have been happy to support that I guess I'm just seeing what happens when I'm not home
Throw away the Xbox. Ok go gently and don't. I would murder someone that threw away my phone. But I also know it's not ok to be addicted to it and not to be present and putting in to the house and relationship. So talk and get a commitment from him. Maybe it's weaning at first. Making sure dinner is cooked with kids engagement etc. One walk a day with kids. One hour with you. Xbox off at 12 so he can get up for kids breakfast, shower and hygiene. That's important for the kids too it sets them up for a good day.