We are on lockdown in NZ. My partner cannot work and i work from home 40hours over Mon-Sat. We have a 5yr old together.
In the mornings I work. Our child plays by herself as her dad sleeps in most days then spends the rest of the time exercising or on his phone on the couch.
After i finish doing my work i make lunch then its play time...all afternoon until bed. I cook dinner every second night. I do mine and our childs washing. I wash sheets and towels. I clean the house. He washes his own clothes and cooks every 2nd night. I am absolutely shattered. I try to pretend i have lots of energy to play with our child but half the time i just want to do nothing. She gets upset if i say i dont want to play right now or can we just chill and play a board game, which i completely understand as she doesnt have anyone to play with except me. How can i increase my energy so I am able to be the mum she needs right now? She loved school and her friends so it is pretty hard on her not being able to see anyone right now.
How do I get her dad to interact with her more? He doesnt even respond half the time she asks him to play so she just gives up and plays by herself. I feel really bad for her at the moment.
Feeling sorry for my only child
Feeling sorry for my only child
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Can your child video chat with her school friends?
Bust his butt. Go somewhere else for lockdown if he can't engage with a child. that's going to be really bloody important right now. Is it because they're home, they cant just be left to it. You are it. You're their whole development, challenge, input, conversation, engagement, it's really important. Just don't put up with less than she deserves.
Why are a lot of men disinterested in their kids?
I was married to one like this for 13 years and left him because of his downright lazy arssed attitude toward our kids, the impact on them being ignored has affected them to this day 25 years on. and then i went on and married another just like this too for an extra 14 years. A hell of a lot of women can be like this too, but this comment is about the male that's doing it. Too many men engage in far less paternal responsibilities than they should be. Why they bother ever having kids just to check out of their lives while living in the same house is beyond me.
That is a lot of pressure on you. Really I’d be a bitch and wake up the dad by making a lot of noise in the house. He needs to pull his finger out of his arse and help out since he can’t work. It’s not a holiday being in lockdown. It’s hard work!
If that doesn’t work is it possible that you do less hours or change the time of day that you are working? Or create a schedule that your daughter can look at and see that ok mum is working until …
Getting out of the house and walking should increase the energy levels or eat almonds as a natural increase.
Having help, support, balance and rest is a great way to increase energy.