How old is to old to like and be in a relationship with.
I have met a guy he is really nice so easy to talk to so easy to be around. He is 54 and I'm 37 (38 this year). We get on so well. I like his touch. I like when he kisses me. He really likes. And I think I like him.
When we talk we are both on the same page. Want the same things in life and in a relationship. He doesn't just want sex. He actually wants to be with me.
He knows I have 2 kids 14 and 11. He has 2 kids 23 and 25. We have spoken about the 17 year age gap and age doesn't matter to us. He says his family wouldn't care as long as he is happy and is being treated right.
We have both been in bad relationships before his worse then mine.
We both just want to be loved and cared about and treated well. We have both agreed to take it slow hang out and see if anything happens. My ex was 12 years older then me and my limit has always been at least 10 years older. But I don't know there something about this 1.
So I guess my question is what should I do.
Should I go for it and see how it goes.
Should I walk away. What would anyone else do in this situation. He isn't an old 54 he is still very young at heart up for fun willing to do things and go places.
It's a bit scary as to how in sink we are together. Not is forced. It all just flows and we enjoy each other's company.
Any advise would be great thank you. 😊
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As long as a relationship is consentual, mutually beneficial and there's no imbalance of power - age doesn't matter!
Go for it, as long as both parties are of consenting age it really doesn’t matter, you’re both grown adults it’s not like he’s 18 and you’re 54.
What the others said!
Look, I'd be alarmed if you were 18-21 with a 50+ year old.
But you're 38.
It's fine. You have life skills and experience. You're mature and independent. You've "found your footing."
It's fine you're both adults. But really think about it, because in 6 years he'll be old and you'll be in your prime,the difference is going to feel it and only get bigger from there. If hes a bit of an old man already don't dismiss that, I mean if you're looking for a long term partner it just might not be in your own best interest. Then again, it might not even last 6 year's so if you like him, dont overthink and just enjoy it.
That's not even that big a gap. I see nothing wrong with it. I'm the older one in my relationship, I'm 47 and my husband of almost 15 years is 33. One of my best friends is 44 and her partner is 27.
If it works why walk away?
I'm 27 dating a 44 year old 😂
just like your friend except the opposite, I'm younger and he's older
🥰🥰🥰🥰 ^^
There’s no limit on love.
I’m 45 and my boyfriend is 24. We’ve been together since he was 21
You’re both old, it’s fine!!
Enjoy!!
😂
Go for it hunny! I loooove older men :) rock that relationship!
After dating only men around my age and then one even younger I decided to venture beyond and date much older and I'm so glad I did. From my experience older men are much kinder and a lot more mature and we share common life values and goals. Plus the sex...omg! So amazing lol. I'm 29 and with someone who is 47. He is the kindest, most amazing person and he treats me like a princess. Date away!!!
If it feels right, do it. At least his kids are older so you don't have to worry about dealing with two lots of blended kids and exes etc, that is what takes its toll in relationships when each have kids. Just remember to take your time because your kids are in that age group where they could turn into the devils spawn if someone walks in and starts changing their life around. Speaking from experience as the devils spawn 😂. Besides that, follow your heart and let it be ❤
Be careful , they say age is just a number ...
There is 12 years between me and my partner , lately he keeps tell me how young and stupid I am ... I’ve put 20 years into our relationship to be told I was a mistake!
But that me....
if your happy make a try of it ..... good luck wish you all the best!
I'm 48 & my husband is 65. We've been together for 5 years. He worried about the age gap in the beginning although I never did. I accepted that he'd probably die before me though. (I know have cancer so that's likely to be the other way around.)
My children were teenagers when we met & they accepted him easily. All of his were married with children. 2 of them I have a good relationship with-in fact one is my best friend! 2 have nothing to do with me, but they were estranged from their dad when I met him.
Without a doubt, it has been the happiest & most fulfilling relationship of my life. I have zero regrets, although I wish I'd met him sooner. Follow your heart xx
I'm 48 & my husband is 65. We've been together for 5 years. He worried about the age gap in the beginning although I never did. I accepted that he'd probably die before me though. (I know have cancer so that's likely to be the other way around.)
My children were teenagers when we met & they accepted him easily. All of his were married with children. 2 of them I have a good relationship with-in fact one is my best friend! 2 have nothing to do with me, but they were estranged from their dad when I met him.
Without a doubt, it has been the happiest & most fulfilling relationship of my life. I have zero regrets, although I wish I'd met him sooner. Follow your heart xx
Age is just a number - go for it :)
My Hubby is 19 years older than me, and we’ve just had our 21st wedding anniversary. I was mid 20’s when we we met. Enjoy him. But it’s not easy at the older end. We are coming at life with very different views on life, I’m in my 40’s, he’s in his 60’s.. it’s still good but it’s not easy. He’d love to retire but we have a teenager to raise. But would I change the last 20 yeas? Nope, it’s a good marriage.. we have a good life..
Good luck!