Im feeling lost with what more I can to do to teach my son right from wrong. He has been misbehaving at kindy recently where he is biting, pinching or scratching other children. We’ve not seen this behaviour at home or in other settings, even at his previous kindy there weren’t these issues.
He is a twin, repeating kindy this year, as we felt they weren’t quite ready for school - more due to being premmie than any other reason.
We’ve been sitting down one on one with him to talk about the way we treat others, telling him he’s a big boy and needs to behave in a way he’d like to be treated, be nice and share toys etc. He understands and we’ll then go a week or so with no problems, until bang.. here’s another incident.
I broke down today, as I got another call about an incident where he bit someone. I am feeling lost. He’s such a beautiful sweet boy, sure he gets frustrated and shows it at home by stamping his feet or crossing his arms, but I’m struggling with what to do next.
I’d really appreciate some direction or advice of what has worked for others. I do understand that these behaviours can be common and an age thing, but would love some pointers.
Son is biting, pinching, scratching at kindy. Never behaved like this at home. What do I do?
Son is biting, pinching, scratching at kindy. Never behaved like this at home. What do I do?
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Teach him to use his words and seek help from adults when required
What is the kindy doing to stop it? It sounds like you are doing as much as you can at home, but if the kindy teachers aren’t reinforcing that in the school/daycare setting it will keep happening. What is happening in the lead up to each incident? Is your child deliberately hurting other children? Is another child provoking your child, leading to him becoming frustrated and reacting by hurting the other child? Are there enough resources available for the number of children at each activity? You’ve said you don’t see the behaviour at home or in other settings, including previous kindy, so it sounds like something is most likely happening at the kindy that is causing the behaviour. Next time you are notified of an incident, organise a meeting with the teacher. Ask specifically what happened in the lead up, and if they can’t answer that ask why they are not supervising your son more closely knowing he has been hurting other children. Also ask how they are dealing with it after it happens. What conversations are they having with your son as soon as it happens? What conversations are they having with the other children involved and the class as a whole?