Hello all baware with me my spelling not good
So ive been off on for 16 years with the father off my 4 kids im now 34 he is Financially emotionally Abuser he very Controlling for the whole time , like no allowed have friends or a girls night can alone talk to who he says i can , love him but so not in love with him i have no Emotional connection of physical connection , i lost myself a long time ago and i have find myself again, kick his ass to the curb just over a month now and i still asking Permission to go out , i think i just lived like this or so many years it was just normal to me and im still doing it were all his cheating to many to count even catch him with a chick my young sorry ass kept taking him back 😪, the problem is he thinks were still together and things are fine 😪
There guy ive always had a crush and sweet caring and understaning guy but the kids dad knows too but not good mates or anything like that were always talk when been at the some party and local pub but last month were talk every night as has seen few off my facebook pist that im not happy this first guy i have open upto about my life everything ive every went throw and i would mine having some fun with him and see were thinks would go down the track we both have talked about it ,
But the kids dad still thinks were together would it be cheating i dont know how many time i tell him were are never getting back together he still thinks were fine i feel single have always felt this way as he does nothing with kids so would it be cheating as i need him to grow up relise for himself it over help
Sorry about my post it makes since to me but maybe not others as do have learning Difficulties witch in that sence is i cant put thing on paper but very smart in my head my down fall
Ps his family all live close to me and they have all neen watching me 😪
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Ps his family are spying on me they all live close to me 😪😪 im getting watched
If its only been a month you should just take a breath! There must be some blurred lines somewhere if your ex thinks you're still together? Has he left the house or still living there? You need to be living separately and be really clear with him that it's over. This is going to be a confusing time for your kids too. Enjoy your new freedom before complicating it with another man. Work on you so you can be the best Mum possible through this.
Yes were living separately , my ex wont to works things out witch i have try to for years but still wonts it because i do everything look after the kids the house and work why he does nothing at all , the other man more for fun now witch he know that , i have not had funny for a long time
And the fact he has no were esle to go is cough sufting
You did say you have a crush on him though so be very careful you won't want more than fun. I still think you should give it a bit more time, you have been in an abusive relationship so it will be really easy for you to fall back into one, you really need to strengthen your mind so you're able to have fun and still use your brain to stop at that and not get sucked in to want more.
My to do list would be:
1. Get counselling
2. Get strong mentally
3. Explore ways to distance yourself from your ex and his family.
A bloke even as friends with benefits would not be on my list at this time. Now is the time to get yourself in a strong position.
Thanks for info
Nooo just noo your not cheating at all he is abusive and controlling.. but have fun go out do not tie yourself down and tell ex nothing litterally.. ya dont want a relationship anyhow so some Male support and fun is warranted.. tell ex your done dont answer to him and limit contact with email only .. he has no right or is too stupid to let you go it's done have fun be free and enjoy the freedom.. I'm all for fun after a toxic relationship life is too short but just keep it to yourself and far away from ex as you can we all deserve some love and fun
Thank u , i so dont wont a relationship just so fun thats all , and to injoy my time with the kids and some great friends , i have limit contact with him